#107 How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself with Steve Mayeda

#107 How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself with Steve Mayeda

#107 How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself with Steve Mayeda

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Steve Mayeda (El Topo) Bio
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Today we're looking at a question that many of you have probably asked yourself because you are often told that you need to become the most attractive version of yourself. How do you do that? How do you become the most attractive version of yourself, and what is it?

So we're going to be exploring how to develop yourself today, what the journey is like, what you should expect on it, and different ways to go about it; different ways to get started, practical tips there, lots of practical ideas in this episode. We're also going to breaking down some of your limiting beliefs or false ideas about what the truth of becoming your attractive self actually is.

So I expect some of what we discuss today, at first you may try to resist it. You may not be okay with it, but that's okay. That's part of the journey. Feeling uncomfortable with new ideas is definitely unavoidable in this journey. So keep an open mind as usual.

Today's guest is Steve Mayeda. He was formerly known as "El Topo". That was his pickup artist name. If you remember back in Ross Jeffries interview (episode 95), he highly recommended Steve as a good person to get solid advice from. So whenever a guest points out someone that we haven't had on the show that they really respect, now of course I reach out to them and get them on the show, and this is a great interview. I’m sure you'll get a lot out of it, and it's a little bit different to some others we've had.

Steve has spent a lot of time with other pickup artists and in the pickup artist community. He used to hang around with people like Jon Sinn, and Captain Jack, names that you'll probably know. So we spent a lot of time in that area, for guys who are familiar with pickup artistry, but then he took a new path and his journey really changed. He started more from the Mystery Method style of pickup artistry and he moved on more to developing himself as a sexual man and teaching this to other men.

Steve has been doing this now for many years and is a great person to talk about around this subject. If this topic is of interest to you, you'll also want to check out some of our previous interviews that look at the same subject; one in particular to look up would be that of Jack Donovan (episode 70) where we got a lot into men's groups and things like that, which we discuss in today's episode. Steve also actually works with Venusian Arts. That's one of Erik von Markovik's (Mystery) companies today.

So he still has his foot in the pickup artist industry, but he's trying to bring more of this development yourself as a sexual man into it.

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Specifically, in this episode you'll learn about:

  • Steve's background, lifestyle, and reflecting on the pickup artist industry in the past (04:06)
  • How Steve came up with the nickname "El Topo" (18:16)
  • What it means to be the best version of yourself (21:15)
  • Where people get stuck in becoming the best version of themselves (26:33)
  • Steve's perspective on defining love (34:19)
  • The scientific principles that are magnified during sex (40:24)
  • Having purpose towards being a better man (41:34)
  • Men need to take a break and connect with themselves towards a clearer vision of who they are (54:33)
  • The advice most offered by Steve, but also the most ignored (1:01:05)
  • The biggest objections men have to improving their dating, sex, and relationships life (1:04:50)
  • Recommendations for high quality advice in this area (1:06:58)
  • Top three recommendations for guys starting out in dating, sex, and relationships (1:10:46)
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Items Mentioned in this Episode include:

  • The Sexual Life (TSL): Steve founded this company and website to help men learn the social dynamics of becoming a better man; improving your relationships, friendships, sex life, and love life.
  • The Sexual Life - Dating Skills: Downloadable PDF - Seducing the Female Mind. Included is a download of the TSL Five Dailys.
  • The 21 Convention: Steve noted his involvement with The 21 Convention while discussing his background. Steve is the host of The 21 Convention and also functions as one of its dating/social coaches.
  • El Topo: This is the movie from which Steve created his "El Topo" nickname.
  • Lawrence Lanoff: Angel referenced Lawrence regarding the scientific principles that are magnified during sex. Lawrence was also a recently featured DSR podcast guest in episode 98 "The Mental Game of Sex".
  • Man's Search for Meaning: Steve noted this book while discussing having purpose as a quality to being a better man.
  • Jared Diamond: Steve referenced this professor of geography and his work while talking about having purpose and how human beings do not naturally have certain beliefs and thoughts in different cultures.
  • Saharasia (James DeMeo): Steve noted this book during the discussion of having purpose and the thought viruses that have repeatedly taken place in our society.
  • The Selfish Gene (Richard Dawkins): Steve continued with the topic of having purpose and the concept of thought viruses and their reoccurrence in societies when a certain population density is reached, and when we start living without our means.
  • Zan Perrion: Steve highly recommends the work and coaching of Zan Perrion, and The Ars Amorata group.
  • Hypnotica (Eric Von Sydow): Also highly recommended by Steve for his perspectives on getting in touch with your sex and what it means.

Books, Courses and Training from Steve Mayeda (El Topo)

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