Ep. #59 How Attitude and Standards Lead to Satisfaction with Women with Christie Hartman

Ep. #59 How Attitude and Standards Lead to Satisfaction with Women with Christie Hartman

Ep. #59 How Attitude and Standards Lead to Satisfaction with Women with Christie Hartman
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Today we're looking at being satisfied with your dating lifestyle, and relationships with women in general. Sometimes we find ourselves chasing things in life that don't make us any happier. Other times, we take an approach to reaching a goal that has the opposite effect of what we want.

Today is really about fundamentals: basic principles and ideas that you need to get right if you want not only to get results, but more importantly, to be satisfied once you get the results that you wanted.

I've brought onto the show today a guest who has a very straightforward approach to the subject. It's both simple and practical, which is always good.

Our guest is Christie Hartman, PhD, psychologist, and behavioral scientist. She has studied behaviors and scenarios of online dating, and dating from both genetic and more psychological perspectives. A professor at the University of Colorado Health Sciences Center for 7 years, in 2012 she left this position to focus on her role as a dating expert, among other things.

She is the author of 5 books on dating and relationships for both men and women. So she brings a balanced perspective from having looked at both sides.

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Specifically, in this episode you'll learn about:

  • Christie's dating life and relationships (02:32)
  • The most common male behaviors leading to dissatisfaction with dating and women (04:05)
  • Men have more problems with online dating (07:15)
  • The meaning of: A bad attitude will scare good women away and attract the very women you hope to avoid (08:48)
  • Ways a negative attitude will sabotage your efforts with dating and relationships (10:29)
  • Most of the time a bad attitude isn't all that realistic (11:38)
  • Understanding complainer behavior versus problem solvers (14:44)
  • Things to do to start changing from complainer mode to problem solver mode (19:02)
  • Poor standards is behind a lot of men's dissatisfaction with dating (25:12)
  • What kind of things would you put into compatibility? (26:28)
  • How guys mess up with compatibility (28:05)
  • The impact of poor standards on your dating life (29:08)
  • Defining your own standards (31:14)
  • Gaining dating experience (32:38)
  • One of the biggest trends: online dating and how it has changed the dating environment (33:26)
  • Casual dating and dating overload (35:33)
  • Selecting another person based on status (38:04)
  • Circumventing the selection process by being interesting (39:44)
  • Recommendations for actionable advise on dating, sex, and relationships (40:30)
  • Top three recommendations to help men get better results with women as fast as possible (45:33)
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Items Mentioned in this Episode include:

    Books Mentioned
  • Changing Your Game (Christie Hartman): The content of Christie Hartman's book was the subject of the interview and is about developing the right mindset to succeed with women.
  • Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus (John Gray): Christie recommended John Gray and this particular book as a good source for quality advice she's learned from. It is about accepting the differences between men and women.
  • The Elliot Rodger Killings and His Thought Process
  • My Twisted World: The memoir written by Elliot Rodger
  • Elliot Rodger's last video explaining his "Retribution"
  • Elliot Rodger's Lonely Vlog: Life Is So Unfair
  • Other Dating Coaches and Experts Mentioned
  • Bobby Rio and his Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy Course: Angel recommended this as one of the best courses to have more fun, engaging, sexual conversations.
  • Jason Capital: Angel recommended Jason Capital for practical and easy to learn attracting women advice.
  • Mystery (Erik von Markovik): One of the originators of pickup artistry with products on the art of seduction, game, and pickup.

Books, Courses and Training from Dr. Christie Hartman

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