#117 Demographics and How they Effect your Dating Life with Jon Birger

#117 Demographics and How they Effect your Dating Life with Jon Birger

#117 Demographics and How they Effect your Dating Life with Jon Birger
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Today's topic was super-fascinating to me. It's about how society is changing. It's really changing fast, as it goes. The ratios of men to women in certain situations, in certain scenarios, in your social life, in your career life, basically where you interact with people, that's changing a lot. It's changing your dating life. It really does have a big impact on it.

There are real decisions that you're taking everyday – where you study, where you work, where you live, and which communities you hangout in – which heavily influence or even decide whether you are monogamous, or you're polyamorous, you just like hookups, or what you like.

I always find it fascinating how our environments change us, how they craft us. So I for one am very careful with my environment, how it is set up. I'm very careful with these real decisions I'm just talking about where you study, where you work, what you do; who you associate with, who your friends are, and so on. You should be too, because these decisions will influence how easy or how difficult you find your dating life, and how it fits with your goals; whether you want a long-term monogamous relationship or you want to play around and be casual for a fair amount of time. So it's important to understand the implications of decisions you're making across your whole life because these are also impacting your dating and relationships.

For many of you, the reason you are listening to this is because dating and relationships are an important part of your lives. Its something that's important to you to get right, and have it work with you.

Today's guest is the author of Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game. Our guest is Jon Birger and he's looking at the dating market, really looking at it, from an economics and supply and demand eye to it. Jon Birger is well positioned to do this since he's an award-winning journalist, contributor to Fortune Magazine. His work has also appeared in Barron's, Money Magazine, New York Magazine, Time Magazine, and The Washington Post; and often appearing on television and radio such as ABC's Good Morning America, BBC World Service, CNBC, CNN, Fox News, MSNBC, and National Public Radio.

Jon, in this interview, he gives us a really interesting and different perspective on the whole game of dating, relationships, and sex. This is definitely something you want to integrate into your thinking. I think it can help you (I think) a bit more long term and strategically about how you’re going to get satisfaction in your life from dating, sex, and relationships; how it's going to work for you. You'll probably be able to identify areas in your life or decisions you've made which were actually working against you. That doesn't mean you need to change them, but being conscious of these things is going to help you.

So enjoy this episode. It's really a great, new perspective that you should take on board.

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Specifically, in this episode you'll learn about:

  • Jon's background into the demographics of the dating market (04:25)
  • The basic thesis / hypothesis of Jon's book (05:57)
  • The ratio of men to women in big cities depending on the attractiveness of the job market (08:35)
  • More women than men are graduating from college: an expanding trend (10:04)
  • Changes in the current college environment regarding dating and relationships (11:43)
  • Hookup culture and related trends in the college environment (18:55)
  • Objections to Jon's ideas: the pop culture and technology arguments (22:45)
  • The likelihood of monogamy among non-college educated men versus working class men (29:54)
  • "Dating up" depending on levels of education (32:37)
  • Competition and modified behavior among females on college campuses (34:44)
  • The downside of the dating culture in the college environment (40:55)
  • Do sites promoting affairs play a role in these trends? (41:57)
  • Gender ratio imbalances, particularly among college graduates: Asian-American women (43:23)
  • Has marriage length / duration and cheating among the college educated affected the quality of marriages and relationships? (48:20)
  • Sexual assault ratios on college campuses (51:08)
  • How to connect with Jon to learn more about him and his work (54:08)
  • Recommendations for high quality advice in dating (54:34)
  • Top three recommendations to help men get results as fast as possible in dating, sex, and relationships (55:20)
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