Ep. #79 A Porn Director's View on the Industry, Sex and Relationships with Dave Pounder

Ep. #79 A Porn Director's View on the Industry, Sex and Relationships with Dave Pounder

Ep. #79 A Porn Director's View on the Industry, Sex and Relationships with Dave Pounder
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We're going to look into dating lifestyles today, including swing, the porn industry, and casual relationships. We're going to tackle some of the less comfortable subjects such as practicing safe sex, how to select women, and taking a hard look at the reality of dating and sex relations between men and women.

We have a guest who has a lot of real world experience, is really super candid, and quite happy to be politically incorrect in order to help people get to the truth. Today's guest is Dave Pounder. He's spent 10 years in the porn industry as both an actor and director, and has had a very active sex life in the swinging community also, so he isn't your usual porn actor.

He has taken a strong interest in the academic world and scientific studies on male and female relationships, and was at one time considering pursuing his own PhD on the subject. That's pretty unusual.

Instead, he ended up writing a book and produced a film on his experiences and views on sexuality and the adult porn industry. The book is titled Obscene Thoughts: A Pornographer's Perspective on Sex, Love, and Dating. His documentary is called Risky Business (no, that's not the Tom Cruise film). It's called Risky Business: A Look Inside America's Adult Film Industry. Neither of these "pulls punches" and they take really hard looks at the social, psychological, and economic impact of performing in adult movies. What that can teach people, in general, is that it looks at how relationships are affected, as well as jobs, etc. It's interesting stuff.

Dave combines both real world extreme dating lifestyle experiences as well as academic studies, which is pretty cool and unique. As you'll see, it makes for great discussion and lots of great insights, so much so that I asked Dave to record a second part of this interview. So it's a double episode, extra long and extra cool.

This interview really was a lot of fun. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

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Specifically, in this episode you'll learn about:

  • A discussion of Dave's book and documentary (04:05)
  • Dave's personal dating background (05:13)
  • Evolutionary Psychology as a powerful means of viewing male and female interactions, why people behave the way they do, and conspicuous consumption to increase mating opportunities (06:45)
  • Taking a step back to look at Dave's lifestyle and views on dating and relationships (26:40)
  • A background on the swinging environment: striking a balance (39:00)
  • Intuition in infidelity and the desire to explore sexual variety (49:10)
  • The porn star lifestyle and Dave's involvement in the industry (01:00:22)
  • The social implications of being in the porn business (01:08:09)
  • The psychology of why women go into the porn industry (01:15:44)
  • Exploring the extremes in a relationship (01:26:00)
  • Orgasmic meditation and the misconception of sexual stimulation (01:29:40)
  • Legitimate versus illegitimate porn production (01:36:50)
  • Sexually transmitted infection risks in the porn industry, and in general (01:40:22)
  • Infection prevention that porn stars should be doing today (01:56:25)
  • The mental impact of porn as a consumer (01:57:47)
  • Today's evolutionary psychology research compared to Dave's experiences and view of reality (02:02:27)
  • Why Dave feels women should embrace pornography and prostitution, and why prostitution should be legalized (02:09:42)
  • Recommendations for high quality advice in dating, sex, and relationships (02:14:00)
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