The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
"State Tech that Advanced Level Daters can Leverage to Boost Inner Game"
Last Update: October 16, 2018
FULL DETAILED REVIEW
The Power of Now was a groundbreaking book that brought some basic principles of inner peace and state to the mass market. The value of the book is that Eckhart Tolle, rather than creating something new, was that he captured the principles in a very simple form that is easy to understand, relate to and apply in your life. That is the no. 1 reason why this book has stood apart from the mass of books on spirituality, meditation, self actualization and so on that cover similar material.
This book is not targeted at men wanting to improve their dating skills. This is an important point, because you will need an understanding of inner game and dating to apply its knowledge.
A Story You Can Relate ToWhen you read the first chapter on how he discovered his new found inner peace and clarity you will make a direct connection. It strikes a chord with the human condition. This first part enables you to understand that you are not at peace with yourself. He explains in very simple terms the thought processes that show that you are not at peace. His humorous look at how ridiculous some of the mental pain and anguish we harbor is, is a wake up call. This strikes another chord.
His mental journey after the first realizations is more difficult to relate to, unless you have made some progress yourself to being more present. When I read this for example, I wasn’t sure about it, it was only three to six months later when I had similar realizations to Eckhart that I accepted this part of his story.
Practical Mind StrategiesChapters three to five move on to practical implementation. He describes one or two very basic exercises and then focuses on describing the experiences, the inner states and how you can reach these mindsets. This is constantly reinforced, with his own story.
These exercises are extremely straight forward. So the value in his dedicating so much of the book to their implementation is in your own understanding of the mental states you will pass through and the underlying reasoning behind it. This clarity is important to your motivation to use the exercises. It provides a useful compass, so that when you have reached a state he describes, you know to look for it again, and the next time it is much easier to find again, thanks to the clarity of your understanding.
I want to caveat this point because it is important. These exercises will be very good for your inner game, and easy to implement, provided you know how to go about it. Eckhart doesn’t explain any relationship of ‘being in the now’ to success at dating and with women in a way that most students of dating will understand. You will need an advanced level, experience or previous study of good dating-targeted inner game material to apply this appropriately. For this reason, whilst it is easy to implement in a general sense, to leverage it to improve your dating life it is more challenging.
The Connection with Dating SkillsWhen I first read this book many years ago many of the dating instructors were reading it and recommending it to each other. I, personally, was looking to take my dating skills to the next level, to make it a more natural part of my life, to take the effort out of it. It had a big impact on me, and although it took a few months of thinking about what he relays in the book, and using some of his principles to get there, the book introduced me, day by day, to the state that he discusses.
When I finally started getting the ‘elated’ states and happiness and mindsets that Eckhart describes it was a little strange. Waking up everyday and feeling on top of the world is basically what happened. I’ve never taken drugs, but I assumed it could be something like taking an ecstasy pill. It was that powerful. I look back on those days with a little bit of nostalgia, because today I have taken feeling like this all the time a bit for granted. Back then I felt like I’d stepped into a new phase in my life. Needless to say this has had a big impact on my dating life, especially in relationships, and in my life overall.
If You Don’t Understand Inner Game Yet, Don’t Start HereThis book is not directed specifically at people wanting to improve their dating skills. That does not detract from its value. However, you won’t be able to use the knowledge in this book to improve your dating life unless you first understand how it is applicable. In fact it could even damage your dating skills if you don’t place this information into the right context. That context will not be transparent to you unless you have studied some aspects of inner game from the dating perspective. So I suggest you take a look at one of the better inner game skillset products that directly target dating in DSR’s Inner Game Skillset Ranking first.
The Bottom LineThis is a MUST read. I suggest you read it after getting a foundation understanding of dating skills, and in particular how inner game relates to the dating skillset so that you can integrate its ‘non-dating directed’ knowledge into your inner game skillset.
For guys who already have some dating success, ‘technical’ dating skills such as attraction and approaching, and have a basic understanding of inner game, this is the ideal product to take your inner game and dating skills to the next level.
In this best-selling book, author Eckhart Tolle describes his transition from despair to self-realization. It explains how he came to understand this transformation, while evolving a practical philosophy of parallels in Buddhism, relaxation techniques, and meditation theory.
He explains that we all have the ability to access the deepest self, the true self, by living present, fully, and intensely in the Now.
He also shows readers how to recognize themselves as the creators of their own pain, and how to have a pain-free existence.
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Table of Contents/ List of Topics Covered:
- You Are Not Your Mind
- Consciousness: The Way Out of Pain
- Moving Deeply Into the Now
- Mind Strategies for Avoiding the Now
- The State of Presence
- The Inner Body
- Portals into the Unmanifested
- Enlightened Relationships
- Beyond Happiness and Unhappiness There Is Peace
- The Meaning of Surrender
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User Reviews of The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
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"An Absolute Must Read for EVERYBODY."
January 24, 2008
Will help improve game.
Will help you find inner joy - as opposed to the mind created pleasure and pain.
An absolute must read for EVERYBODY.
One point, tho: Some of the concepts I understood because I had watched the tolle videos on YouTube. I'd say watch the videos first because I know for a fact that some revelatory points Tolle makes would not have sunk in so deeply had I not watched the videos first.
HIGHLY RECOMMENDED BOOK!
"A pathway to a golden new feature in your life mixed with bad advice and mystical bull…"
August 19, 2013
Read that? There I just saved you 224 pages and 16.29 bucks cause that is the amount of goodness in this whole thing.
Basically Tolle picked up a bit of something developed and perfected in the east (specifically in Buddhism and Hinduism) and talks about it like it just came to him in an epiphany.
The truth is mindfulness meditation has been around for centuries and even in the western world there has been wide acceptance of the psychological advantages of it at least 10 years before Tolle.
The problem is not only does Tolle not acknowledge the true experts in this field; he also doesn’t go that deeply into specific practical techniques to achieve this state of mind.
And when he starts to diverge from mindfulness meditation, that’s when it gets plain bad.
Not only will he give the usual meaningless incomprehensible and confusing mystical babble that will only distract you from the good part; he will plain and simply give you bad advice concerning the search for happiness, like saying that belief that you control your life is an illusion that brings pain.
This goes complete in opposition to the proven concept of Self-Efficacy from positive psychology (which is one of main academic sources for dating skills research by the way); which posits that one of the important factors to happiness is the belief that one as the capacity to complete tasks and achieve goals.
He also makes a bogeyman out of your mind and thoughts which will probably just make you get stressed out like T0rch did. But on that topic I suggest you see S. A. Martin-Nunez’s review at Amazon, he also gives a list of more appropriate books if you are interested in this.
But my suggestion (especially if you want to spare time and money) would be to check out the wiki page for “meditation” and “research on meditation” to get an overview of the types and benefits of meditation and choose which would be better for you; then just Google it and you will probably find good free advice on techniques to develop it.
As for its [meditation (not this book)] applicability to dating skills I would say it is a titanic addition to your inner game (and also a good thing to show off knowledge about), but if you want specifics, you get (happiness, relaxation, emotional balance, self-esteem, reduced depression and anxiety which does wonders for those with approach anxiety; increase in, self-control, perceptual sensitivity and empathy which in turn leads to greater social intelligence and also increase in awareness which help pick up the subtle cues of the social world not to mention a diminished need for sleep which gives you more time to game. This is of course not mentioning all the health and intelligence boosts. (And yes all of these benefits have been scientifically documented).
Aside note for people like spoonybard:
I would probably define myself similarly to him but you have to keep an open mind especially for eastern stuff; yes they often babble with mystical hocus pocus, but sometimes there is truth in their teachings. What I suggest is you check what scientific research has come up about the subject you want to check out and then go on from there.
Also they (eastern philosophers) often talk in hyperboles and parables so don’t take their words too seriously. Yes you are your mind but what he meant is you are not your current thoughts so don’t give them too much credit.
I could go on about how it’s understandable why people overrate this book given it does bring a glimpse of amazing stuff we westerners are not usually familiar with, along with other comments, but I’ve written quite enough already
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"I Find this Book Useless."
September 12, 2009
It's in the same section of the bookstore as stuff on "crystal healing" - strike 1.
Subtitle of the book contains the words "spiritual enlightenment" - strike 2.
I couldn't get through the first chapter. Too much "spiritual" mumbo-jumbo. "You are not your mind" - of course i'm my mind, what else would I be. There's no such thing as a spirit. All that is "me" is electrical impulses in my brain, which is just a very complex computer.
As a rational skeptical materialist atheist, I find this book useless.
"Everything has Changed"
April 18, 2008
"It has helped my game"
January 30, 2008
"One of the Best Book"
January 27, 2008
"Awesome, if only for the Simple Concepts"
October 09, 2009
but yeah this book is awesome, if only for the simple concept which it teaches:
the past is gone, you cannot relive it in glory or rehash your past troubles therefore they cannot affect you - the now is all you ever have, no problems can affect you in the now - the future is not here yet so you cannot worry about it.
"The stuff Tolle Lays out is Mind Blowing"
October 10, 2009
Also, even though some of this stuff may help you with women, I wouldn't call this a pickup book. If you follow Tolle's ideas (namely forsaking the body and senses for the spirit) to their logical conclusion, one of the things you would have to do is stop pursuing women.
So in conclusion, I'd say this book has some good concepts, and the first few chapters can give you a feel for a few things you may want to work on. However, I don't think you can fully implement some of his ideas unless you actually commit to a serious lifestyle change.
"Great but extra-curricular"
December 31, 1899
This is a good book to "become a better man", which can only help with women.
"My #1 Favorite Book"
January 30, 2008