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The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give It to Them
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"Good For Mindset And Motivation, Poor For Practical Details"

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5.3
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5.0
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4.0
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4.0
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6.0
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The Good
Contains some solid information on the right mindset and attitude for attracting women. Has a big emphasis on being masculine as a means to attract feminine women.
The Bad
Has some bad advice mixed in with the good advice. Lacking concrete examples to make the ideas easy to implement. Makes too many generalizations and the author presents all his own opinions as if they were fact.
The Bottom Line
This book is mostly going to be beneficial to nice guys who try to appease women or men who feel they are unworthy of quality women. It has some good info on what women are really attracted to in men, and how this is different from what most people believe.

However it's fairly vague in many places on the specifics of what to actually do, and for guys with little experience it's unlikely this book will be detailed enough for you to know the correct course of action to take with women. There isn't any kind of a system here, it's more akin to 'just be confident and do whatever you want'.

The advice in this book consists of being very direct and upfront with women. In that sense, it's very simiar to Mode One. The thing both of these books have in common is they don't give any practical examples of what a good conversation looks like. If you want to take the philosophy of being direct with women but need a practical guide on how to do so, then we recommend you check out The Daygame Blueprint.

FULL DETAILED REVIEW

I'll start off this review by stating that I don't know anything about the author, W. Anton. He's not a coach or known name in the dating community, and attempting to find any information about him online reveals very little.

I bring this up because he doesn't talk about himself at all in this book. He doesn't mention his background, his experiences with women, how he learned his ideas or give any indication whatsoever what exactly makes him an expert on this subject.

Normally books are written either from the author's perspective of having real world, practical experience with the subject, or with a theoretical slant where the author discusses research findings and interviews experts in the field.

Instead, The Manual consists of Anton telling you how to be a man and seduce women, without giving any clues as to his own experience or providing any data or research to back up any of what he says. That doesn't make what he says good or bad, it just means that it's impossible to say what he is basing any and all of his opinions on.

Society Thinks You Are Worthless

A good portion of the book is focused on your mindset about women and yourself, and how this has been corrupted by society. The point that Anton makes is that all men would be naturally attractive to women but are conditioned by the process of socialization to change their beliefs about what it takes to attract women.

While there is some truth to what he says, he kind of gets into a rant about this and makes some generalizations that simply don't hold much weight. For example, one of his main themes here is that males are worthless to society, whereas females have a lot more value. Now, if you were to go to China and the majority of the middle east for example, I don't think you'll find much evidence of this being the case.

Anton goes into detail on how men do more physically demanding jobs and are sent off to war, while woman are spared of such matters. This discounts the fact that women do in fact enlist in the armed services, as well as have some of the same jobs men do. Nevertheless, he seems to blame this on society treating men as disposable, rather than on the practical implications that the average man is more physically capable of these things than the average woman.

There's just too many generalizations here with nothing to back them up, such as stating females are never expected to help a male in distress, while a male is always expected to risk his life to protect a female. There's pretty clear evidence in the world that neither of these assertions are absolute truths.

Are You A Male Or A Man?

One of the distinctions that Anton makes in The Manual is the difference between males and men. 'Men' refers to masculine males who are attractive to women, in the same way that he uses 'women' to denote feminine females who are attractive to men. Which according to Anton, is only about 10% of females.

Something he stresses here is that women don't place the same importance on a man's looks in the same way that we do with women. This is true, so the book has some worthwhile information here on what you should be focused on instead. Anton says that if you come across as confident, charming and masculine you'll be more attractive than a good looking guy who doesn't possess these traits.

Part of being masculine, according to Anton, is always being direct with women. He claims that the more indirect a male is, the more feminine he appears, which decreases his attractiveness to women. So the advice is to be direct all the time, no matter the situation. An example given is if a woman is in a circle of friends you should bust into the group and be direct with the woman and ignore everyone else.

This is pretty poor advice and is going to have a low success rate. It completely neglects the idea of social intelligence, which is something that women actually find attractive in a man. Being able to interact with other people in a socially appropriate way is important, especially if you want to succeed with higher quality woman, which is what this book is aimed at. Unfortunately some of the advice here just isn't the most effective thing to do.

There is a time and place to be direct with women, but it's also important to know when that type of approach will be putting a great deal of social pressure on her and how there are better ways to achieve the same goal.

Positively Standing Out From Other Men

Developing the kind of confidence and self-esteem that Anton recommends is something that is going to benefit any man. And the book is pretty motivating and encouraging in getting you to believe that you don't need any external things or permission to start approaching and meeting the women you want.

However it doesn't take into account that the most attractive women have a lot of dating options. There's no shortage of confident and charming men they'll meet. So some of the advice here, which consists of complimenting a girl all night to make her feel special and so she believes you want her, is not great. Attractive women know you find them sexy and want to hook up with them, and just telling them repeatedly is not a high percentage strategy.

An effective tactic in a lot of dating advice is to qualify a woman, which is to show her that you have high standards with the women you date and give her a reason you like her besides just her looks. Anton takes the opposite approach and says you should never qualify a woman, and let her know that whatever standards you have she has already met. More poor advice, as this is taking away the opportunity and need for her to invest some effort into winning you over.

You'll also be told that there's no point improving your style and that working out is pretty much a waste of time, unless you want to do it for yourself. Anton claims that these things won't make any difference with women. This simply isn't true, as improving your overall image is one of the fastest ways to change how women respod to you. Anton later talks about the importance of creating a positive first impression, so it's strange he would dismiss these areas as clearly they contribute to that impression.

Other things that Anton claims women aren't attracted to are money and high social status, two things that are pretty well documented that women do find attractive. This isn't to say that you have to be rich and powerful to date attractive women, but to outrightly state women don't value these things is just plain false.

Reading this book I couldn't help get the feeling Anton thinks doing anything to improve yourself is a complete waste of time, and it's motivated by getting women then you're a loser. The reality is much of what guys do is motivated by improving their success with women, and there's nothing wrong with that. More men are motivated to go to the gym and eat right for the difference it will make to their appearance more so than their health, but it's still having a positive impact on their life regardless of the motivation behind it.

One thing that Anton does correctly point out is that may guys wait for external occurrences before they take action with women. Whether this is achieving a certain physical change, or making a certain amount of money or anything else, it's an unhelpful mindset to have and you don't need any of these things to start meeting women.

Does Your Life Purpose Revolve Around Women?

The emphasis in The Manual of male and female polarity reminded me of the book The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida. The importance of masculinity is evident in both, however there are some differences.

Deida makes it evident that women are always going to test you so they can feel your strength and masculinity, which allows them to feel safe in their feminine role. Anyone who has much experience with attractive women will know that this is a pretty accurate reflection of reality.

Yet Anton states that if a woman is testing you it's because you've messed up and done something wrong. This is incorrect, as women test men because they are interested and they need to make sure he is the real deal and not just putting on an act. So you should actually welcome tests as it is a sign a woman is starting to invest in you, and not take this to mean you've done something wrong.

Another of Deida's points is that women are most attracted to men who have a life purpose which goes beyond women. A mission which he is determined to achieve and is the number one priority in his life.

Anton seems to take the opposite approach and suggests that other things are just a distraction and you should spend your time approaching and flirting with women. He talks about losing career motivation when you're good with women and there's no mention of having anything else to strive for in life. A number of times in the book he gives an example of how you might take a girl on the bus to go to a date, which is not a good idea but might be your only option if you neglect all other areas of your life for the sake of women.

Is The Manual Worth A Read?

Despite the number of negatives with the book, it still has some good concepts that will help many men. It really stresses the importance of genuine confidence in yourself and not relying on external factors to give you a sense of entitlement to talk to and date women.

It covers the importance of deciding for yourself what you want out of life and not just doing what is expected of you, either from society or your family and friends.

If you're not familiar with the idea of what it means to be a masculine man and the importance of playing the leading role with women, this book will help open your eyes.

So for those reasons the book is best suited for guys at a beginner level. However it's the beginners who typically have a hard time distinguishing good advice from bad, which this book has in equal measures. And since there are no practical examples of what to say, beginners will likely need a more detailed product to study, such as The Daygame Blueprint.

Feel free to read this book for the mindset and motivation that you can go out and start approaching women right away, but don't expect an actual manual here on exactly how to do that.

The Bottom Line

This book is mostly going to be beneficial to nice guys who try to appease women or men who feel they are unworthy of quality women. It has some good info on what women are really attracted to in men, and how this is different from what most people believe.

However it's fairly vague in many places on the specifics of what to actually do, and for guys with little experience it's unlikely this book will be detailed enough for you to know the correct course of action to take with women. There isn't any kind of a system here, it's more akin to 'just be confident and do whatever you want'.

The advice in this book consists of being very direct and upfront with women. In that sense, it's very simiar to Mode One. The thing both of these books have in common is they don't give any practical examples of what a good conversation looks like. If you want to take the philosophy of being direct with women but need a practical guide on how to do so, then we recommend you check out The Daygame Blueprint.

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Written by Brian
November 16, 2015
Although I agree with allot of what's said here, there's one thing I have to point out that I believe the reviewer missed.

He states that "Other things that Anton claims women aren't attracted to are money and high social status, two things that are pretty well documented that women do find attractive. This isn't to say that you have to be rich and powerful to date attractive women, but to outrightly state women don't value these things is just plain false."

Anton argues that women aren't attracted to these quality's because they are attracted to the confidence these males have. Basically these males "think" they've earned the right to the highest quality females and this confident attitude is truly what females find attractive. Others (including females) then mistake cause and effect, meaning they think its the money and status that make the man attractive when really it's his confidence (him feeling worthy of the best females). I don't think you can deny that this theory isn't at least party true, since men with high status and money are normally more confident.
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