"Great Resource On How To Tell Stories To Attract And Connect With Women"
February 13, 2015
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While learning to be a better storyteller will help you in other parts of your life too, the focus here is on getting you success with women. A lot of the types of stories mentioned here would work best while on a date with a girl, so the assumption is that you already have some experience and are able to get women out on dates.
If you're a beginner and need to work on the basics first, Bobby has a great course which is Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy. Another product aimed at beginners that we recommend is Make Women Want You by Jason Capital.
The Power Of Stories
Storytelling has been around in some form or another for many thousands of years. As humans, we're hardwired to respond to stories and it's through stories that we most effectively absorb information.
So when it comes to conveying your personality to women and creating a positive impression, stories can do wonders. The biggest problem that guys tend to have though is they don't know how to make their stories emotionally engaging. They tell stories that deal in facts, not feelings.
This is one thing that Bobby and Rob really emphasize throughout the product, that your stories need to have an emotional impact for them to be effective. Whether you're wanting to create attraction or a deep connection, these are both feelings that women experience, and stories can provide a shortcut for getting there.
One thing you'll learn here is how to subtly convey things about yourself through the stories you tell. This is really powerful, as it allows you to 'tell' a woman something without explicitly stating it. For example, you often can't come right out and tell a woman that you're a good lover. But if you were to tell a story that implies this, without it seeming to be the point of the story, then the woman will be more likely to believe it.
How To Tell Awesome Stories
This doesn't mean that you should tell a bunch of stories that all allude to you being great with women and fantastic at everything you do. Women are very perceptive and will often spot this for what it really is: an obvious attempt to brag about yourself.
A lot of guys in the dating community found this out the hard way, when it was popular to embed details in stories like having an ex-girlfriend who is a stripper, as per the recommendation of Mystery. However this wasn't congruent for most of these guys, and telling fake stories often led to getting the opposite reaction of what they were hoping for.
What Bobby and Rob teach you here is how to take events from your own life and tell them in a way that will make for great stories. They stress the importance of not fabricating stories, but they give you some leeway to exaggerate for dramatic purposes, as this is something most people expect in stories anyway.
One thing that Rob teaches, which goes against some of the old school advice, is the concept of 'cool vulnerability'. This basically means revealing things about yourself in your stories that portray you in vulnerable situations, but you're able to tell the story with confidence and laugh about yourself. The reasoning is that you must be so sure of yourself if you're willing to bring up potentially embarrassing things you've done, whereas most other men would be trying to hide them.
There are plenty of examples given here, and one avenue that Rob goes down a lot is childhood experiences. He shows you how he takes things that happened to him when he was young and crafts them into stories that really showcase his personality and help women to feel a deeper connection to you. So even if you're like many guys and think that you don't have any interesting stories to tell, you'll see that isn't the case when you know how. In fact there's a bonus workbook that shows you how to generate your own awesome stories from your life.
One important part of telling great stories is knowing whether your listener is interested in hearing your story or not. In the main book Rob gives some great tips on how to test the waters, so to speak, so you'll know if you should go ahead with your story. This is a really great idea and you'll benefit from doing the exercise he suggests in this section. It'll pay off when you're able to refrain from telling stories that are likely to bore the woman you're talking to.
Structures And Formulas
Rob mentions that he studied creative writing in college and Bobby talks about taking a class with legendary screenwriting teacher Robert McKee. So they both have a good grounding in the theory of what makes stories effective, as well as years of experience out in the real world meeting women.
Throughout the product there's a lot of different lists and formulas talked about for how to create and structure stories. For example, Bobby teaches you 24 different themes as well as 10 different plot structures. In the book, Rob details different structures you can use and gives you some templates where you can plug in your own details to quickly create a story.
So it's good in that there's a lot of information here and you'll get plenty of ideas on the specifics of how to create and tell stories. But it's also potentially overwhelming in that there's so many different things taught. The key thing to keep in mind when you go through this product is that you don't have to use all of the ideas and techniques together in every story. One thing that could have been expanded on a bit is going into detail on different stories for different contexts, such as out on a date with a woman versus in the first few minutes of meeting a woman for the first time.
In a way it almost feels like two different products here. Bobby and Rob never appear together and have recorded all of their own material separately. Bobby's videos are done as a slide presentation, while Rob's are done with him appearing on camera. Bobby's sections of the course have written transcripts available, while Rob's don't. Overall it gives it a somewhat disjointed feel, and the two are teaching their own thing without really referencing what the other has taught.
This isn't really a big problem as their ideas don't conflict with each other, but they both have different styles and personalities. Rather than trying to copy what they do exactly, you'll be better off taking the core principles and applying them to your own style and personality.
There's also a formula here that Rob dubs 'sexual snowballing' and he says he uses this on every first date he goes on. It's similar to the questions game that was first advocated by Mystery, but this involves more storytelling and digging deeper. This can be a good way to increase sexual comfort, and for guys who have trouble understanding whether or not to physically escalate with a woman, this can help you see how receptive she might be to your advances.
Delivery And Details
It's not just the events in your story that determine if it works well or not, it's how you tell it. There's a bonus video by Rob on seductive delivery, where he goes into the main things you need to keep in mind when delivering your stories. There's some good info here and it's something a lot of guys will benefit from.
There's also a good explanation on how to add seductive details to your stories, including a seven point checklist to make this easier for you. This one thing can often be the difference between a good storyteller and a great storyteller. The actual events in the story might be the same, but when you add the extra details it'll make both you and your story a lot more memorable to women.
It's also worth noting that you don't have to be an expert public speaker to be a good storyteller. Rob mentions a few times in his videos that he's not the most naturally gifted speaker, as he tends to stumble over his words and appear slightly awkward. However this doesn't hold him back from being a great storyteller, and the enthusiasm and passion with which he tells stories is clearly evident. If you follow the advice here in this product, then you too can get to this level with practice and dedication.
The Bottom Line
This is a strong product that will likely benefit anyone who watches it. Storytelling is a skill that has so many uses in different stages of interactions with women, but it's a skill that most guys struggle to understand and/or implement effectively.
This product is based on a lot of real world experience with women, as well as classical story structures that have been around for centuries and are used in books and movies. There isn't anything else on the market we've reviewed that solely focuses on this topic, so if you're unable to captivate a woman's attention when you tell stories, this is a product that you should invest in.
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