"Practical Guide For Beginners On How To Create Attraction In Women"
October 16, 2013
FULL DETAILED REVIEW
The book starts off listing a number of different limiting beliefs that most men hold about women and dating, attributing these beliefs to what we get taught through Hollywood movies that don't reflect reality. Then it suggests the correct beliefs that you need to have instead if you want to be successful with women. This is good advice here, but like anything that involves changing your beliefs, relies on you making a concerted effort to do so. The best way to try and implement the new beliefs in this book is to read them to yourself every day and go talk to plenty of women so you have some real world evidence to base these beliefs on.
Something that Jason stresses in the beginning of the book is that the most important thing is to work on yourself. So a lot of the attractive beliefs and behaviours he wants you to adopt rely on you trying to become a better man. He references a few self-help authors in doing this, and one thing he continually mentions throughout the book is 'leaning towards your edges'. What this means is that you're always striving to push yourself and improve in the areas of wealth, health and relationships. That by educating yourself and taking chances in life you become a more well-rounded man and can become more attractive to women every day by working on the things that really matter.
Formula For SuccessLike many dating coaches, Jason has a formula that he teaches. In this instance, it's attraction, high value small talk, and escalation. The good thing about this system that he teaches is that it tries to make it as simple as possible. There are some other systems out there that are really convoluted and overwhelming for guys who are new to this, and they end up suffering from information overload.
With that being said, there are some other techniques that Jason talks about here that expand upon his 3-step model. Specifically, under the topic of high value small talk there are a few ideas he talks about that go way beyond what most people's concept of small talk involves. In reality, the model that he teaches is very similar to what some other dating coaches teach, but it's made to sound more free-flowing and less restrictive. There isn't really a step-by-step plan telling you exactly what to say and in what order, but more of a framework to operate within and giving you examples of what you can say that demonstrate your attractiveness to women.
The good thing about this product is it gives you plenty of practical examples you can go out and use right away. So you can go out and apply these ideas and use the examples given, and you'll get a feel for the kind of attitude and personality that women find attractive. From there, you can start to develop your own material and conversational frameworks because you'll understand the principles that make them work.
Routines Or Natural Game?A number of years ago there was a long-running debate in the pickup community about whether using scripted routines or a more natural style of game was better. What many people failed to see is that it's possible to use a combination of both, and this product provides a really good example of how you can do that. Jason's style is to be quite direct, in the sense that he doesn't invent excuses as to why he is talking to the girl. But he also uses a lot of teasing and push-pull and never really comes right out and tells the girl that he wants her like some proponents of natural game do.
There are a number of routines, gimmicks, games or whatever you want to call them, to give you some help if you struggle to think of what to say to women. While there's an advantage sometimes to natural game and just improvising on the spot, sometimes your brain struggles to think of something and in this case having a few routines and games you can fall back on can really help you out. Especially for newer guys, having some proven bits of conversation to fall back on can act like a safety net and give you more confidence.
To his credit, Jason points out the innovators of a number of the different routines that he mentions, such as Mystery and Tyler Durden aka Owen Cook. So not all of these ideas are original, in fact I remember using some of these myself many years ago. But there are other original ideas from Jason himself that are based on some of the more well known dating techniques, such as being cocky and funny by David DeAngelo.
The key is to use routines that fit your personality and that you're congruent with. There are a number of things that Jason says and does with women that personally don't fit my style, but there are others that do. For example, playing thumb wars with a girl is not something that I choose to do, but I know many guys who love doing so. So take what fits in with your style and adapt what you can to make it work for you.
The Attractive Guy In The BarThere's some good advice in this book about things you can do to have a woman interested in you before you even talk to her. So this includes things such as your fashion and grooming, body language and using pre-selection to pique the interest of women. These aren't new concepts, but they are important ones if you've never heard them before.
Jason gives some basic but good advice about fashion, detailing what his personal style is and how he wears a few accessories and has a haircut to make him stand out in the bar. Despite how you may have seen Mystery dressing, you don't need to wear anything outlandish or over the top. But it's generally a good idea to dress fashionably and wear a few items that help to give you a sexual image. This book will give you a good starting off point on how to do that.
Pre-selection is a powerful concept and is mainly useful in bars and nightclubs. The idea is that if girls see you talking and having fun with other girls, they will see you as more attractive, based on their perception that other girls have already approved of you. There's some basic advice here on how to do this in a bar, nothing revolutionary. If you apply all of these principles taught in the book and make an effort to flirt with most of the girls you see in the bar or club then you should get some good results coming via the power of pre-selection.
Realistic Success LevelsOne thing that becomes apparent throughout the course is that Jason is an enthusiastic guy, and this is great in terms of the motivation he provides for going out and taking charge of your dating life. On the other hand, there are times where he exaggerates on the simplicity or the success that you're likely to have. Saying things like how easy it is to pick up any attractive girl or how you can make literally every woman you meet attracted to you is not really accurate.
For many guys who are new to learning these skills, it takes a certain amount of time and dedicated practice to get solid results. And once you get really good, you can achieve tremendous results. But I don't know of any guys who are able to literally get any woman that they want. It's just not going to happen.
It's important to keep realistic goals so that you can stay motivated in what you're doing. If you go out with the expectation that you should be hooking up with every cute girl you talk to, you can end up thinking you're doing something wrong when this doesn't happen. So it's important to understand that even the best guys in the world with women don't have a 100% success rate. Just keep practicing the skills and working on your sticking points and the success will come.
BonusesThere are a number of bonuses that are included as part of this product. One of them is a short report called Always Know What To Say, and gives some advice on how to always keep the conversation going in an attractive way. There are some basic principles of conversation so that you can always think of something no matter what she says, as well as some games and gimmicks you can use.
Another bonus is called Done For You Attraction. It lists a number of mainly cocky and funny one-liners that you can use to help spark attraction. A lot of these are old school lines that are well known in the pickup community. The important thing with using these is to use them with the right playful attitude, otherwise you can risk coming off as an arrogant jerk. But if you say them with the right attitude you'll see women often responding well to them. In general though, a lot of these lines work better on younger women.
Along the same lines there is The Charm Bible. It contains a lot of cocky lines and also flirtatious and banter-themed roleplays you can use. There's some good advice in here, just remember not to say any of these in a serious way. There's also a guide to body language that has some good but basic advice. To help you with some sexual skills there's also a transcript of an interview between Jason and Jason Julius, on the topic of how to give girls orgasms and increase your staying power.
There's a Powerpoint video of different subliminal switches you can incorporate to convey status. Pretty good advice here, especially to help present you as more of a challenge and increase sexual tension. And there's also a report that includes a number of field reports of Jason in action, detailing how he seduced the girl. There's some interesting insights to be gained from reading these as well.
Also please note that when you purchase this product you'll receive a free trial to The Masters Of Dating Inner Circle, a subscription based online program. If you choose not to opt out of that program, you'll be charged a monthly fee of $59.97.
The Bottom Line:This is a really solid product that focuses on the core of what it means to be an attractive man, and the steps you can take to become one.
Rather than giving you a lot of theory, it teaches you the attitude and mindsets of guys who are successful with women, as well as giving word-for-word examples of the types of conversations you should be having.
It's only really focused on night game, and specifically the early parts of the interaction. If you find yourself at a loss for words after you first approach a girl, this product can help you with that. Best suited for casual dating, not really any information on long term relationships.
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