"Interesting Look into BDSM, but Way Too Much Fluff & Bad Advice"
September 10, 2010
FULL DETAILED REVIEW
The experience was like going through Internet forums that are badly moderated, where you have to sift through mountains of irrelevant or bad advice to find the gold nuggets. It's challenging. And not what you buy a book for - you buy a book to avoid all of that time wasting and distracting or misleading noise.
Warning: This book has a lot of what I'd call dangerous advice. It is full of advice that is just plain wrong and could potentially lead men to do very silly things. For this reason I've highlighted some of the more ridiculous advice later in this review.
Beware the Misleading TitleThe title of this book "How to fuck a woman's brains out" is really misleading. The content covers purely BDSM (the useful content) and then there is a lot of fluff where Thorn Daddy is basically boasting about his sexual triumphs and telling you about his general life philosophies (which I would advise you not listen to...).
I point this out because the title is obviously very effective, and a topic that guys want to read about. You wouldn't believe how many searches we get for this book on our site.
Unfortunately the content inside the book doesn't fit with the expectations the title sets for you.
Useful Part - Introduction into BDSMIf you are interested in the world of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, Masochism) this book gives you some insights into someone who has obviously spent a lot of time in the BDSM community, and whose sex life is based around its values.
As a result, this book will give you some insights and very practical tips on what to do if you want to develop your life sexually in this direction.
It introduces you into many BDSM concepts, vocabulary, mindsets, typical people you find in its community and so on. Enough to make you feel a lot more at ease with the subject if you are new to it.
Many of the BDSM tips are good, practical, and play on the general psychology of sex. Some would be effective in any sexual relationship, not necessarily just between partners that have mutually consented to get involved in BDSM. They would stimulate healthy sexual development in a relationship. It gave me some more perspectives to look at and add to my own knowledge.
There are many many ideas given on what to do with your woman, the majority of them degrading, humiliating, dominant or kinky to some degree to fit with the BDSM theme.
Useful Part - Psychology of SexAnother useful part of this book was the contents related to the psychology of sex. Throughout the book you will have Dollie, Thorn Daddy's partner, relate her feelings about certain techniques and situations.
This is all relevant and educational and similar to material contained within the book "My Secret Garden" by Nancy Friday.
It can give you insights into the darker (or less discussed) side of the psychology of the sexes. However, I'd recommend reading the Nancy Friday books, because they are better researched and structured and don't contain...
Fluff... Fluff.. Boast.. Boast.. Blah.. BlahIt took me several months to finish this book despite reading this type of advice being "my job" - it was particularly difficult at the beginning because it contained so much fluff, off subject material and ThornDaddy telling you how great he and his lifestyle is.
Amongst the topics passed over are politics, your apartment, plants and cats, skinny vs. chubby women, myspace.com, TV etc. etc.
You have to 'wade' through a lot of irrelevant material that is tedious, and for some people could be misleading (if they take it seriously).
Ok, So Now Let's Move to the RidiculousNothing that Thorn Daddy relates is substantiated by more than his own personal experiences in life. This isn't so much of an issue where it relates to BDSM. However when it relates to anything outside of BDSM and outside of that specific community it is often just wrong, and at times laughably so. Ridiculous advice includes:
- You should not wash your bed linen often, because if it has cum stains on it from women, new women will be unknowingly motivated to have sex with you when they get near it.
- Advice on how to fatten your woman up (because she is skinny which ThornDaddy explains at length is not what you want) including specific dietary and meal recommendations - peanut jelly sandwhiches are a feature.
- Advice on how to fatten your woman up including specific dietary and meal recommendations - peanut jelly sandwhiches are a feature.
Unhealthy MindsetsThis book contains some really bad mindset advice. Thorn Daddy's philosophies and ideals are extremely limiting and narrow and his writing is very opionionated.
Some of the insights you get into the values of Thorn Daddy include:
- Don't seek out beautiful or attractive women, seek out chubby or fat women who aren't so attractive because they are easier, more fun and better in bed
- Attractive or skinny women are bad in bed, no fun and only give you drama.
Remember this: You learn more about a person's success and results through their limiting beliefs than through what they say they have achieved (or boast about, more to the point where this book is concerned).
I highly recommend NOT taking in or accepting the limiting mindsets contained in this book. They will only stop you from building a truly satisfying dating lifestyle and limit your success with women.
The Bottom LineThis book contains a lot of bad advice, and an interesting and useful introduction into the world of BDSM.
Overall, it isn't worth investing the time in reading it.
The issue is basically that Thorn Daddy has written a long book and put all of his advice in it, many random bits of life. Thorn Daddy, has obviously spent a lot of time in BDSM and experienced a lot from it. This positions him as someone you can learn from on that - on BDSM.
But the rest of his advice is just kind of amusing and a little retarded, it had me smiling and shaking my head, if not laughing. If he cut all of the non- BDSM material out of this book, it would get a much higher rating from us.
It's a 260 page paradox.
If you are specifically interested in investigating the world of BDSM and kinks, and you are at an advanced experience level (so that you know what to ignore in advice) then you could skim read through this book and get a good practical start into the world of BDSM.
Editor Note We will look out for a better introduction into BDSM which doesn't have all the minuses of this book and update these recommendations later.
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