"Advanced Material for Those Who Want to Build More Healthy Relationships"
December 04, 2009
FULL DETAILED REVIEW
Material Verges on Self ActualizationThis program goes well beyond the realms of relationships with women and ends up focusing on your growth as an individual. The reasoning behind this according to DeAngelo is that you need to become a better man yourself in order to become Mr. Right and meet Mrs. Right.
David takes material from some of his non-dating courses for business like Wake Up Productive on subjects varying from leadership, finding your purpose in life, making your day productive and living with a 'clean system' so that you build your energy.
This is all valuable stuff for your life - coming from my own perspective I know how improvements in all these areas of my life have benefited my relationships, so while you may not 'get' the link, trust me, it's there. DeAngelo does a good job of explaining this link in the program and obviously has chosen material based on his own progress (he gives examples of his own recent relationships in the program to illustrate).
Practicality 10/10 - Thorough but Slow Learning with Many ExercisesThe whole program is pretty slow with many exercises and examples. On the positive side, if you are slow learner and like to work through exercises to understand exactly the implications of what is being taught this will be valuable to you. On the negative, if you get things quickly, this program will probably be too long for you - it had me 'yawning' and wanting to get on with it with some parts, and being very engaged with others.
Building Intimacy and Solving Relationship ConflictsA lot of time is dedicated to dealing with emotions in relationships with DVDs 5, 6, 7 & 8) dedicated to this. Concepts such as 'emotional waves' and 'holding space' will help you deal with a variety of situations in relationships.
I felt that the part on 'Facilitation process' is valid for a 'mature relationship', however, it requires that your woman have a certain level of emotional maturity in my opinion to be effective. It came across as a mini-course in being a psychotherapist.
Advice on Mrs. RightValuable content here on what your expectations should be for a woman, and how she can bring a positive influence to your life and you to hers. This is definitely for guys at an advanced level - if you can't hold up a relationship, then it would be difficult for you to fathom starting here.
For instance DeAngelo identifies these as the Deal Breakers for a woman:
- You don't want a woman who will accept excuses for not doing what you need to do
- You want a woman that can help you heal your emotional wounds (i.e. everyone has them, and its through positive relationships that they can be healed)
That's beyond the expectations of nearly every guy I've met - but the logic is tight. The point here is - this program is pushing things to a new level in terms of what you should expect from relationships with women, that may not be for everyone (ever or yet).
Weaker Component - Personality Types (DVD 9)I was looking forward to the discussion on personality types, since obviously all women are not alike - and many guys need more guidance to use the tools provided with respect to what situations may come up and how different women may react.
However, while DeAngelo normally does a good job on research, this part came across as weak. He introduces some frameworks from "The Five Love Languages", Myers-Briggs and NLP. This was overly simplistic in many areas, which caused confusion in the students on the course at times. Myers-Briggs has long lost 'validity' in the world of psychology as a reliable tool, and there are better alternatives he could have used.
Overall I would ignore this, as it is likely to leave you more confused than adding any benefits - with the exception of the five love languages. If you're interested in understanding women's personality types, the best course for this is the Pandora's Box System.
The Bottom LineThis is mostly a mindset, almost philosophical product, which has its value but is not for guys who are looking for step-by-step techniques to apply in specific situations, it's more complementary to those.
For guys who have found that their relationships with women have evolved in ways they didn't like in the past, this product will be helpful for you. The majority of guys in this position are self-sabotaging their relationships in some way, and this program explores a wide variety of areas where you may be doing this.
This program is for advanced guys who want to get the most out of long term relationships with women. It will make you think, reconsider your past behaviors, and probably lead you to some simple but tough actions - if you have the courage.
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