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The path From Boy to Warrior
Before your clinic session you will have a phone call with Nick.
He was confident that if I trusted him and pushed myself that I would see results THAT weekend and that I would get this part of my life handled...
When I hung up the phone despite his convincing speech only one question rang through my head,
“Can my life really change in one weekend?”
There are emotions of gratitude welling in my chest as I write this. Because the answer is:
YES
About me:
I was never very good with girls
The only stint I had with girls was in third grade. All my friends were girls.I remember spinning around barefoot in the wet grass until we were so dizzy we’d fall. we’d lay there side by side with our hearts thumping and watch the clouds go by.
I am an artist introvert by nature raised by a sexually conservative jewish family. I remember distinct instances in my childhood where I was severely scolded by my parents by expressing my sexuality.
I have found that some of my friends with conservative catholic, jewish or indian upbringing have had the same frustrations and belief systems formed around women that had limited their success.
I had no luck in art school . NONE! I liked girls but I had a hard time finding those feelings because I was so ashamed of them I literally could not feel them or connect with them.
In years to come I approached many girls. I even took a couple bootcamps with other instructors and had very little success. I had always thought I was a kind and successful person in all areas of my life. I could not figure out why I could not get this part handled. I only had 1 serious relationship my whole life and it did not work because 1: it was handed to me and 2: we were so wrong for each other. I couldn’t go through such a bad break up again I wanted choice. but I couldn’t crack the code. I thought I was doomed to be this social retard forever.
I even started to prowl mail order bride sites.I gave myself a time cap, “if I can’t handle this by the time I’m 40 I will make Jiin-Fu my wife.”
This was all my world. This was all my reality. Until last weekend...
Why did Nick’s teachings work? Its simply because he is a fantastic teacher! The reason why I am so qualified to say this is because I’m also a teacher and teachers know good teaching.
Nick is focused on the doing instead of harping on and on about philosophy. He gives easy bite sized actionable steps that when you apply get results. His advice is so simple and focused its easy to follow. I always knew exactly what actions I had to take in order to get the result i wanted.
There is phenomena called the 80-20 principle or the Pareto Principle. In which 20% of your actions make up for 80% of your results. So in theory if you just focus on learning that 20% then 80% of your results are in the bag! Nick focuses on the social skills that matter and doesn’t overwhelm you with theory so that you get massive results a short period of time.
I can’t tell you how many times the words, “ I’ve never done that before in my life.” left my mouth. the past weekend.
A cute NYU student gave me her number in a book store.
I wrapped my arm several complete strangers in washington park within minutes.
I talked to EVERYONE at the bar and had girls eye rapeing me to go talk to them.
Once I find my rhythm in conversation I can’t get people to shut up. I have people trying to yell over each other passionately to tell me about themselves.
And the biggest breakthrough was on the instruction day “Sexy Saturday”. Just the anticipation of that name alone made my mouth parched at the thought of getting sexual...
This is something I thought was wrong all my life.I thought that thinking of a woman in a sexual way was ungentleman like, disrespectful, and shameful.
After that Saturday's session I walked right up to a group of girls and sat next to one I was interested in. Within minutes I was thinking of all the enjoyment Iv wanted to have with her. I let my imagination run wild. I wanted start at her neck with my lips and slowly kiss my way down to her hip bone. I wanted to trace her hip bone with my tongue and bring her panties to her feet with my teeth. Imagined my nails run down her back has her hair stood up on ends as she arched her back in pleasure.
I leaned in close slowed down my speech and I froze her with the intensity of my eyes.
She could feel the nature of my thoughts.
I thought I scared the shit out of her. She just looked at me silent with wide eyes.
So I left....
I found Nick for feedback I wanted to know where I fucked up.
I was deflated and explained to Nick the situation .Then She walked past me and pinched me on my arm.
it rocked my foundation...
This was my missing piece...
Which brings be back to that question, “ Can your life really change in one weekend?”
I always had this romanticized idea that the path from a boy to a warrior is when what previously made you terrified now gives you excitement. Here’s to that path and to anyone who is brave enough to join us in those ranks!
Thank you. So so much.
I had been looking forward to working with Nick for a while. I had
read his articles and a friend did a program a while back speaking only
great things about him. All this intrigued me even more to work with
Nick.
However, I have been in the “community” for a while and done a few
Bootcamps (4 or 5…and some with (so called) TOP companies…) not yielding
much results, so I needed to be sure that this was right for me, and
not another marketing scheme.
I talked to Nick around 5 times on Skype (yes..5 times!!) and both
his charisma and assurance that I would get where I want if a) I work
with him and b) I go back and practice what he asks me to , left it very
hard for me to say no…his energy and excitement is contagious..!! Next
thing I knew I was on my way to New York!!
All in all, the weekend was amazing…!! And I don’t mean that in a
Bootcamp high sort of amazing, I truly believe that if I continue
working with Nick closely and working on what he ask’s me to, I can get
where I want to in my dating life and success with women.
Nick’s focus is simple, be someone who can approach fearlessly,
understanding that some people will simply not like you (for their own
reasons), while others will (again for their own reasons), and once you
find someone you “click” with, simply enjoy a great conversation with
them (using the effective conversation skills he teaches you), and
amplify the sexuality if you feel turned on by them (again he will teach
you all this). Simple!! Yet very effective..!!
Since I have returned, the reaction’s I’m getting from women are very
different. I realise that my conversations are 100 times better. I can
talk to people with more connection, really listening to what they say,
and trying to understand each unqiue person I talk to, rather than
trying to apply a certain “formula” like I was before (even though Nick
will give you certain “techniques” to help you improve your
conversations”. I also know how to turn things sexual when I meet a girl
I have chemistry with.
One of the greatest things about this program, and this MUST NOT be under-rated, is the support you receive afterwards.
In almost all of the Bootcamps I did before, the instructors teach you
the bootcamp, and you don’t hear from them afterwards..!!..And if you
do, then you need to pay more money..!! Not with Nick..!! Nick is
committed to working with you for the rest of your life when it gets to
getting this area of your life handled…you don’t have to pay him any
more for another phone consultation, or to ask him questions via e-mail,
he is committing to helping you however he can to get you where you
want.
I have to say that Nick’s extremely strong determination to get you where you want is very rare, and refreshing.
I emailed him 5 days or so after the Bootcamp saying that we should have
a Skype session on the weekend to work out a clear path for me to
follow…he replied that he wanted to do it sooner, as he wanted something
for me to practice FOR the weekend.
This sort of enthusiasm and energy to helping you achieve the success
you want is extremely rare in this “dating advice” market…so PLEASE,
PLEASE guys, if you get the chance to work with Nick, use this support
he offers wisely.
And almost lastly, this program cannot be summed up without
mentioning Christina Berkeley, who was amazing assisting our Bootcamp.
Her calm energy, understanding and knowledge of how relating between men
and women works best, together with her strong presence, went together
very well with Nick. The two made a great teaching pair. When she left
on Saturday afternoon, it almost felt as if something was missing from
our team…but we still got together and rocked the night..!
And lastly, I wanted to shout out to my fellow brothers and Bootcamp
Alumni’s…without them this Bootcamp would not have been so special.
Throughout the two days we bonded really well, and helped and pushed
each other as much as we possibly could. We formed a very good “bond”
which I am eager to harness.We are all determined to keep in touch to
ensure we all succeed.
All in all, my final words, if you’re thinking about working with
Nick, or if you’ve done Bootcamp’s with other companies which haven’t
yielded the results you wanted AND if you ARE committed to going back
and working on what Nick asks you to, then I totally totally recommend
this program. It is not a quick fix but I am confident it will get you
where you want to.
I have told myself, that I will write another review in a month, to
contrast to this review, so that you can all see the progress I have
made since the Bootcamp!! This is something I will definitely do…so look
out for my post in one month’s time…
Thanks…and good luck to you all
Oh…I wanted to mention one more thing…if any of you have not been to
New York before (like me, before the program), then make sure you try
taking off an extra 4-5 days to get to see New York too!! It’s a great
city, with so much vibrancy and energy…make sure you check it out..!!
User Reviews of Sparks of Attraction Live Training
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"Outstanding investment to become a better Man"
Overall rating
9.7
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10.0
Ease of Implementation
10.0
Innovativeness
9.0
Packaging/ Customer Service
10.0
Value for Money
9.0
Reviewed by Ryan
November 17, 2013
November 17, 2013
Coaching/ Bootcamps Information
Instructor(s) for Coaching:
Nick Sparks
Date Program Took Place:
October 24, 2013
Joining Fearless is the best investment I made in my life. Becoming great with women as well as mastering myself are the biggest goals I’ve wanted to achieve in my life, and I have not regretted anything the moment I stepped onto the plane, en route to New York.
The program is consisted a total of 3 days, 3 nights. I own some of Nick’s video products already, so I wasn’t sure what to expect when I meet him in person. Would he be as awesome, honest, and supportive in person? Well let’s just say, many people out there put on different faces in different situations; Nick, on the other hand, is as authentic as a man could get. I really want to emphasize that, because he cares about your success as much as you do. Sometimes he cares even more when you’re simply not “feeling it” during the night as we approach gorgeous girls in the City.
The first night, we started out by learning the basics of approaching a woman. And when I say basic, approaching in and of itself is darn simple! Listen, going up to a woman, getting to know her, and have a good time do not take rocket science. As you follow the steps Nick teaches, you learn that it does not matter what you say. Pickup lines are as corny as a farm in Idaho anyways, how would you feel if a girl approaches you with a canned line? It takes much more confidence and self-assurance to approach her, look her in the eyes, and let what you say, how you act, come out naturally as they may.
On the next day, Nick prescribed what specifically each of us needs to work on, after seeing how we did last night. While every guy’s sticking points could be slightly different, it was surprising that no matter how hard we think our downsides are tough to overcome, that it would take a miracle to fix our interactions with women, every guy’s mistakes are actually all so common, and really easy to fix. In addition, the assistant coaches really helped as we did approach exercises. It was profound to hear their critiques from the woman’s perspective. Friday is further dedicated to mastering conversation: the funny thing is, the more you listen and focus on the other person, the more it gets easy to converse with her.
Finally, on Saturday, we learn about the nuts and bolts of how to escalate. Escalation is simply act upon your feelings, how the cutie in front of you makes you feel. We went through, step-by-step, how to transition from the initial approach, conversation, to getting close to her. Everything has a natural feel to it, as if it’s simply human nature between you and her that is taking place.
As the end of the weekend approaches, I have made a few valuable friends along the place. You realize that empowering men to become the best of themselves, particularly with women, is Nick’s biggest passion. And he’s damn selfless and proactive in helping you to get there.
The program is consisted a total of 3 days, 3 nights. I own some of Nick’s video products already, so I wasn’t sure what to expect when I meet him in person. Would he be as awesome, honest, and supportive in person? Well let’s just say, many people out there put on different faces in different situations; Nick, on the other hand, is as authentic as a man could get. I really want to emphasize that, because he cares about your success as much as you do. Sometimes he cares even more when you’re simply not “feeling it” during the night as we approach gorgeous girls in the City.
The first night, we started out by learning the basics of approaching a woman. And when I say basic, approaching in and of itself is darn simple! Listen, going up to a woman, getting to know her, and have a good time do not take rocket science. As you follow the steps Nick teaches, you learn that it does not matter what you say. Pickup lines are as corny as a farm in Idaho anyways, how would you feel if a girl approaches you with a canned line? It takes much more confidence and self-assurance to approach her, look her in the eyes, and let what you say, how you act, come out naturally as they may.
On the next day, Nick prescribed what specifically each of us needs to work on, after seeing how we did last night. While every guy’s sticking points could be slightly different, it was surprising that no matter how hard we think our downsides are tough to overcome, that it would take a miracle to fix our interactions with women, every guy’s mistakes are actually all so common, and really easy to fix. In addition, the assistant coaches really helped as we did approach exercises. It was profound to hear their critiques from the woman’s perspective. Friday is further dedicated to mastering conversation: the funny thing is, the more you listen and focus on the other person, the more it gets easy to converse with her.
Finally, on Saturday, we learn about the nuts and bolts of how to escalate. Escalation is simply act upon your feelings, how the cutie in front of you makes you feel. We went through, step-by-step, how to transition from the initial approach, conversation, to getting close to her. Everything has a natural feel to it, as if it’s simply human nature between you and her that is taking place.
As the end of the weekend approaches, I have made a few valuable friends along the place. You realize that empowering men to become the best of themselves, particularly with women, is Nick’s biggest passion. And he’s damn selfless and proactive in helping you to get there.
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"Outstanding"
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Reviewed by Gleb Ditrikh
November 02, 2013
November 02, 2013
Coaching/ Bootcamps Information
Instructor(s) for Coaching:
Nick Sparks
Date Program Took Place:
October 15, 2013
Nick is the best thing that will ever happen to you. He will push you and do whatever it takes to make sure that you will reach your goal. His program is a like a marathon with lost of challenges that you will have to face on your way to success with women. It will not be easy, but you really have to trust him because he knows exactly what he is doing and he will cause you to SUFFER from sucess.
The best thing about him is that you do not need to be an expert in dating because you can be a beginner. Thus, if you trust him, then Nick will help you reach your Maximum potential in just a short weekend
Good Luck, and stay strong people!! Women are not as difficult as you think
The best thing about him is that you do not need to be an expert in dating because you can be a beginner. Thus, if you trust him, then Nick will help you reach your Maximum potential in just a short weekend
Good Luck, and stay strong people!! Women are not as difficult as you think
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"12 months on and this is a lot easier than I thought!!"
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9.0
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8.0
Packaging/ Customer Service
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10.0
Reviewed by asocialman
September 05, 2013
September 05, 2013
Coaching/ Bootcamps Information
Instructor(s) for Coaching:
Nick Sparks
Date Program Took Place:
July 01, 2012
Probably the biggest thing I learned on the weekend with Nick was that I wasn't showing girls that I liked them. I wasn't escalating. I could be fun and interesting, and girls would show me that they liked me, but I wasn't taking things further. I’d stay in funny mode and the interaction would wear out. Nick taught me how and when to escalate, and how to do it without coming across like a creep or feeling uncomfortable.
For example, I was out one night back home recently. The bar was closing, and I was leaving with my mates. I was about to have a cigarette but there were two girls to my right so I thought I’d ask them for a light. After 5 minutes of banter and 2 minutes of escalation I was getting in a taxi with one of them :D. I'd never have known how to to do that without Nick. I was walking home after leaving her house the next morning. I bumped into a mate of mine from school and he was with a girl. Turned out she lived in London (he lives in Ireland). I didn't think much about it til I was talking to a mutual friend. Apparently that was his ex from a few years ago. He’s trying to get back with her. I thought it was a nice metaphor. Instead of being the guy that’s facing thirty and trying to get back with his ex coz he feels like he’s running out of time and options, I’m walking home after spending the night with a hot (and LOUD) Spanish girl! And I've got Nick to thank. Cheers bro!!
Right now I’m learning to be more direct with girls; how to show them they turn me on. In the past I would be apprehensive about displaying any kind of physical attraction to a girl. Either through eye contact or physically. I’d be scared of making her feel uncomfortable. Now I just focus on enjoying it. If she’s got a problem with that, well, that’s her problem! In the future I’ll get better at understanding what she’s feeling and adjusting my behaviour to that.
For example, I was out one night back home recently. The bar was closing, and I was leaving with my mates. I was about to have a cigarette but there were two girls to my right so I thought I’d ask them for a light. After 5 minutes of banter and 2 minutes of escalation I was getting in a taxi with one of them :D. I'd never have known how to to do that without Nick. I was walking home after leaving her house the next morning. I bumped into a mate of mine from school and he was with a girl. Turned out she lived in London (he lives in Ireland). I didn't think much about it til I was talking to a mutual friend. Apparently that was his ex from a few years ago. He’s trying to get back with her. I thought it was a nice metaphor. Instead of being the guy that’s facing thirty and trying to get back with his ex coz he feels like he’s running out of time and options, I’m walking home after spending the night with a hot (and LOUD) Spanish girl! And I've got Nick to thank. Cheers bro!!
Right now I’m learning to be more direct with girls; how to show them they turn me on. In the past I would be apprehensive about displaying any kind of physical attraction to a girl. Either through eye contact or physically. I’d be scared of making her feel uncomfortable. Now I just focus on enjoying it. If she’s got a problem with that, well, that’s her problem! In the future I’ll get better at understanding what she’s feeling and adjusting my behaviour to that.
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"Aug 2013 Weekend with Nick Sparks"
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Value for Money
8.0
Reviewed by Carolina Hurricane
August 28, 2013
August 28, 2013
Coaching/ Bootcamps Information
Instructor(s) for Coaching:
Nick Sparks
Date Program Took Place:
August 24, 2013
I read "The Game" a couple years ago and was initially very turned off by it; the whole psychological trickery involved seemed too complicated, too devious, too unnatural, and too uncomfortable. However, lacking any better alternatives at the time, I investigated the online PUA world and first found a coach who utilized similar techniques as the main characters in The Game. I went to Orlando for a 3 day weekend bootcamp that involved similar activities found in Nick's program, and I thought I did relatively well considering I had never cold approached like that before. However, once the bootcamp was over the umbilical cord was cut and I was left to my own devices. The one and only night I went out to try to build upon the things I learned at the bootcamp, I was stuck back at approaching.
After that bootcamp I missed 3-4 golden opportunities with very attractive women because I never felt comfortable around girls I'm really attracted to. This was extremely frustrating to say the least, and after the last missed opportunity I took back to the web where I found Nick.
I never believed in destiny until I met Nick. I also always believed that there isn't a single "soul mate" out there for me, that I am compatible with many, many women across all backgrounds and ethnicities. After my weekend with Nick I now know beyond the shadow of a doubt that my destiny is to make connections with as many people out there in the world, both women and men. What I liked most about Nick in my initial conversation with him was that he stated the end goal is not to simply be able to attract women to you and to have fulfilling relationships with them, but to have fulfilling (non-sexual) relationships with men, which naturally extends into improved relationships in all areas of life, including friends, jobs, extended family, etc.
Thursday night we met briefly at a neighborhood bar and grill where Nick laid down the first set of basic steps. In retrospect it is amazing how simple and confidence-building approaching can be when you follow three basic steps. Everything else comes from the inside, from your own desire toward the girls you approach, and if you're like me then you're not used to feeling this desire and focusing it on an attractive girl. This was the biggest part missing from my first night, yet--amazingly--I still yielded extremely positive results. I approached close to ten girls or groups of girls without a single negative response (at least not that I recall). I felt like I was well on my way to becoming a master of attraction after such initial success.
Friday we spent classroom time with a couple lovely female assistants where we practiced our approach and body language. I felt surprisingly nervous with the female assistant who was obviously not going to judge me in any way and was perfectly inviting to my touch. I think the feeling of being on stage in front of Nick and my fellow students turned up the pressure more than I expected. I may as well have been performing on Saturday Night Live! However I got through it, Nick made careful, calculated observations with corresponding feedback, and I felt relieved to have made it through. After a brief field exercise we all headed back to our pads for rest before the night game.
Friday night was entirely different from Thursday night in terms of results, the vibe of the crowd, etc. I had hoped it would be better than Thursday night and that I would simply maintain a linear, upward trajectory of my progress. Friday night was tough, I won't lie. I approached more girls, around 12-15, but received very little (perceived!) positive feedback. In retrospect, Friday night was EXACTLY what I needed at the time in order to set up Saturday night.
Sexy Saturday. OH, Sexy Saturday.... The day was spent with more classroom instruction, feedback, and exercises followed by another brief field exercise. One particular exercise was absolutely mind blowing. Nick had the best tactic for building up my inner desire and sexuality and how to focus it on his drop-dead gorgeous assistant. *sigh* my heart flutters again now just thinking back on it. Yesterday seems so long ago! After the field exercise we all rested up in preparation for night game but all I could do was toss and turn in bed because my chest would not stop thumping.
Saturday night was without doubt the best night of my life. Bar none. We met up at the usual neighborhood bar for prepare talk before heading out on the town once more. I took every opportunity to warm myself up outside on the street, talking to almost every girl I passed. We ran into a bachelorette party that was extremely flirtatious off the bat and I felt my sexual desire build as I watched Nick cross off the first item on the bachelorette list by whispering "sweet nothing's" in the ear of the bachelorette. She lit up like a Christmas tree, putting her hand to her mouth and slapping Nick's shoulder as he continued to pour his magic elixir down her ear, yet she could not turn away. Next item on the list was for a hot guy to take his shirt off, and I tore mine off without hesitation. The beads I was awarded as a result came in handy the rest of the night as a conversation piece.
I started to catch fire before we ever even made it into the first bar. Once inside I took the wise step of joining my wingman in conversation with a set of 3 girls. I spoke with a girl who I had zero attraction to for ten minutes, but I still practiced the things Nick taught me, and all it did was continue to boost my sexual desire. I found myself stuck talking to a gorgeous Puerto Rican girl at the back of the bar and halfway into the conversation it hit me that I was very attracted to her. I got out of my head, I started feeling her sexual energy as she responded to mine and it was a feeling I will never forget and will become motivation for all future approaches.
On the way to the next bar I chatted with a gorgeous blond about to cross the street and offered her a piggy back ride. As fate would have it, I would become acquainted with her later on in the night (she happened to be a friend of a friend of Nick's). I pulled out a basketball move on a gorgeous, tall blond and got applause from a group of guys following close behind, as well as bringing excitement and laughter to the blond. I felt indestructible, and all I wanted was to talk to girls and be close to them and feel them respond to my sexual desire.
At the next bar Nick directed me to go talk to a group of 4 attractive girls at the end of the bar. I walked over without hesitation but as I approached, the last girl was taking a seat at the table with the others. I pusses out, intimidated by the level of intimacy the table created for the group, and I headed down the stairs across from the table. I don't recall what went on downstairs, but when I resurfaced I made a beeline for the most attractive girl in the group and plopped myself down right next to her. A Bostonian, known to be ball busters. She loved my presence but better yet, I loved HER presence and I let her FEEL it.
At the expense of saving this dialogue from becoming a novel, I'll stop here and just add that I probably made 25 approaches last night, with a couple make outs. Stuff I never in my wildest dreams thought I could do in NYC, or anywhere else for that matter. Stop making excuses and go put yourself out there, you were meant to do it!
After that bootcamp I missed 3-4 golden opportunities with very attractive women because I never felt comfortable around girls I'm really attracted to. This was extremely frustrating to say the least, and after the last missed opportunity I took back to the web where I found Nick.
I never believed in destiny until I met Nick. I also always believed that there isn't a single "soul mate" out there for me, that I am compatible with many, many women across all backgrounds and ethnicities. After my weekend with Nick I now know beyond the shadow of a doubt that my destiny is to make connections with as many people out there in the world, both women and men. What I liked most about Nick in my initial conversation with him was that he stated the end goal is not to simply be able to attract women to you and to have fulfilling relationships with them, but to have fulfilling (non-sexual) relationships with men, which naturally extends into improved relationships in all areas of life, including friends, jobs, extended family, etc.
Thursday night we met briefly at a neighborhood bar and grill where Nick laid down the first set of basic steps. In retrospect it is amazing how simple and confidence-building approaching can be when you follow three basic steps. Everything else comes from the inside, from your own desire toward the girls you approach, and if you're like me then you're not used to feeling this desire and focusing it on an attractive girl. This was the biggest part missing from my first night, yet--amazingly--I still yielded extremely positive results. I approached close to ten girls or groups of girls without a single negative response (at least not that I recall). I felt like I was well on my way to becoming a master of attraction after such initial success.
Friday we spent classroom time with a couple lovely female assistants where we practiced our approach and body language. I felt surprisingly nervous with the female assistant who was obviously not going to judge me in any way and was perfectly inviting to my touch. I think the feeling of being on stage in front of Nick and my fellow students turned up the pressure more than I expected. I may as well have been performing on Saturday Night Live! However I got through it, Nick made careful, calculated observations with corresponding feedback, and I felt relieved to have made it through. After a brief field exercise we all headed back to our pads for rest before the night game.
Friday night was entirely different from Thursday night in terms of results, the vibe of the crowd, etc. I had hoped it would be better than Thursday night and that I would simply maintain a linear, upward trajectory of my progress. Friday night was tough, I won't lie. I approached more girls, around 12-15, but received very little (perceived!) positive feedback. In retrospect, Friday night was EXACTLY what I needed at the time in order to set up Saturday night.
Sexy Saturday. OH, Sexy Saturday.... The day was spent with more classroom instruction, feedback, and exercises followed by another brief field exercise. One particular exercise was absolutely mind blowing. Nick had the best tactic for building up my inner desire and sexuality and how to focus it on his drop-dead gorgeous assistant. *sigh* my heart flutters again now just thinking back on it. Yesterday seems so long ago! After the field exercise we all rested up in preparation for night game but all I could do was toss and turn in bed because my chest would not stop thumping.
Saturday night was without doubt the best night of my life. Bar none. We met up at the usual neighborhood bar for prepare talk before heading out on the town once more. I took every opportunity to warm myself up outside on the street, talking to almost every girl I passed. We ran into a bachelorette party that was extremely flirtatious off the bat and I felt my sexual desire build as I watched Nick cross off the first item on the bachelorette list by whispering "sweet nothing's" in the ear of the bachelorette. She lit up like a Christmas tree, putting her hand to her mouth and slapping Nick's shoulder as he continued to pour his magic elixir down her ear, yet she could not turn away. Next item on the list was for a hot guy to take his shirt off, and I tore mine off without hesitation. The beads I was awarded as a result came in handy the rest of the night as a conversation piece.
I started to catch fire before we ever even made it into the first bar. Once inside I took the wise step of joining my wingman in conversation with a set of 3 girls. I spoke with a girl who I had zero attraction to for ten minutes, but I still practiced the things Nick taught me, and all it did was continue to boost my sexual desire. I found myself stuck talking to a gorgeous Puerto Rican girl at the back of the bar and halfway into the conversation it hit me that I was very attracted to her. I got out of my head, I started feeling her sexual energy as she responded to mine and it was a feeling I will never forget and will become motivation for all future approaches.
On the way to the next bar I chatted with a gorgeous blond about to cross the street and offered her a piggy back ride. As fate would have it, I would become acquainted with her later on in the night (she happened to be a friend of a friend of Nick's). I pulled out a basketball move on a gorgeous, tall blond and got applause from a group of guys following close behind, as well as bringing excitement and laughter to the blond. I felt indestructible, and all I wanted was to talk to girls and be close to them and feel them respond to my sexual desire.
At the next bar Nick directed me to go talk to a group of 4 attractive girls at the end of the bar. I walked over without hesitation but as I approached, the last girl was taking a seat at the table with the others. I pusses out, intimidated by the level of intimacy the table created for the group, and I headed down the stairs across from the table. I don't recall what went on downstairs, but when I resurfaced I made a beeline for the most attractive girl in the group and plopped myself down right next to her. A Bostonian, known to be ball busters. She loved my presence but better yet, I loved HER presence and I let her FEEL it.
At the expense of saving this dialogue from becoming a novel, I'll stop here and just add that I probably made 25 approaches last night, with a couple make outs. Stuff I never in my wildest dreams thought I could do in NYC, or anywhere else for that matter. Stop making excuses and go put yourself out there, you were meant to do it!
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"The path from boy to warrior "
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Reviewed by xavierII
August 03, 2013
August 03, 2013
Coaching/ Bootcamps Information
Instructor(s) for Coaching:
Nick Sparks
Date Program Took Place:
July 25, 2013
The path From Boy to Warrior
Before your clinic session you will have a phone call with Nick.
He was confident that if I trusted him and pushed myself that I would see results THAT weekend and that I would get this part of my life handled...
When I hung up the phone despite his convincing speech only one question rang through my head,
“Can my life really change in one weekend?”
There are emotions of gratitude welling in my chest as I write this. Because the answer is:
YES
About me:
I was never very good with girls
The only stint I had with girls was in third grade. All my friends were girls.I remember spinning around barefoot in the wet grass until we were so dizzy we’d fall. we’d lay there side by side with our hearts thumping and watch the clouds go by.
I am an artist introvert by nature raised by a sexually conservative jewish family. I remember distinct instances in my childhood where I was severely scolded by my parents by expressing my sexuality.
I have found that some of my friends with conservative catholic, jewish or indian upbringing have had the same frustrations and belief systems formed around women that had limited their success.
I had no luck in art school . NONE! I liked girls but I had a hard time finding those feelings because I was so ashamed of them I literally could not feel them or connect with them.
In years to come I approached many girls. I even took a couple bootcamps with other instructors and had very little success. I had always thought I was a kind and successful person in all areas of my life. I could not figure out why I could not get this part handled. I only had 1 serious relationship my whole life and it did not work because 1: it was handed to me and 2: we were so wrong for each other. I couldn’t go through such a bad break up again I wanted choice. but I couldn’t crack the code. I thought I was doomed to be this social retard forever.
I even started to prowl mail order bride sites.I gave myself a time cap, “if I can’t handle this by the time I’m 40 I will make Jiin-Fu my wife.”
This was all my world. This was all my reality. Until last weekend...
Why did Nick’s teachings work? Its simply because he is a fantastic teacher! The reason why I am so qualified to say this is because I’m also a teacher and teachers know good teaching.
Nick is focused on the doing instead of harping on and on about philosophy. He gives easy bite sized actionable steps that when you apply get results. His advice is so simple and focused its easy to follow. I always knew exactly what actions I had to take in order to get the result i wanted.
There is phenomena called the 80-20 principle or the Pareto Principle. In which 20% of your actions make up for 80% of your results. So in theory if you just focus on learning that 20% then 80% of your results are in the bag! Nick focuses on the social skills that matter and doesn’t overwhelm you with theory so that you get massive results a short period of time.
I can’t tell you how many times the words, “ I’ve never done that before in my life.” left my mouth. the past weekend.
A cute NYU student gave me her number in a book store.
I wrapped my arm several complete strangers in washington park within minutes.
I talked to EVERYONE at the bar and had girls eye rapeing me to go talk to them.
Once I find my rhythm in conversation I can’t get people to shut up. I have people trying to yell over each other passionately to tell me about themselves.
And the biggest breakthrough was on the instruction day “Sexy Saturday”. Just the anticipation of that name alone made my mouth parched at the thought of getting sexual...
This is something I thought was wrong all my life.I thought that thinking of a woman in a sexual way was ungentleman like, disrespectful, and shameful.
After that Saturday's session I walked right up to a group of girls and sat next to one I was interested in. Within minutes I was thinking of all the enjoyment Iv wanted to have with her. I let my imagination run wild. I wanted start at her neck with my lips and slowly kiss my way down to her hip bone. I wanted to trace her hip bone with my tongue and bring her panties to her feet with my teeth. Imagined my nails run down her back has her hair stood up on ends as she arched her back in pleasure.
I leaned in close slowed down my speech and I froze her with the intensity of my eyes.
She could feel the nature of my thoughts.
I thought I scared the shit out of her. She just looked at me silent with wide eyes.
So I left....
I found Nick for feedback I wanted to know where I fucked up.
I was deflated and explained to Nick the situation .Then She walked past me and pinched me on my arm.
it rocked my foundation...
This was my missing piece...
Which brings be back to that question, “ Can your life really change in one weekend?”
I always had this romanticized idea that the path from a boy to a warrior is when what previously made you terrified now gives you excitement. Here’s to that path and to anyone who is brave enough to join us in those ranks!
Thank you. So so much.
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"One hell of a weekend"
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Reviewed by William Wallace
July 28, 2013
July 28, 2013
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Nick Sparks
Date Program Took Place:
August 18, 2012
Hey Everyone,
This has been a long time coming, but I feel that since a few months have passed, I have a greater perspective of the benefits of the programme. I'll do my best to be as clear and concise as I can, but forgive me if I run off on a tangent as there have been an adventure or two. ;)
I arrived in New York from the UK not really knowing what to expect. My first day was spent getting to know my surroundings, gazing at the huge buildings which, as a dreamer by nature, began to make my mind race with the possibilities.
The first night arrived and I left for the meetup spot. I arrived and stood outside with bar feeling some trepidition, anxious and a little doubtful over what the weekend may hold. I was the first to arrive and spotted Mr Sparks dropping hooks to the groups of people around him. I said a quick hello, ensuring I slowed down the pace at which I would usually speak - something that I'm sure even Gerard Butler has to. However, over the course of the weekend, I was about to learn that my accent, as a fellow countryman whom I met that weekend would tell me, "was money". ;)
The other guys arrived and we sat down for a little coversation about how the first night would go. We would be concentrating solely on approaching and getting over this initial hurdle. This was my biggest challenge overall and it would be prove to be something I had to work on over the weekend. Luckily, I was surrounded by a man who clearly knew what he was doing and two other "students" who were extremely hungry to learn the craft.
The first night on the whole, went well. It took me a long time to get warmed up, longer than any of the other guys - infact I came dead last in the number of approaches made. After i was warmed up, things went well and generally people were very friendly. The first few groups of people I went into, I ended up running away before they actually gave me any bad signals as I felt they didn't want my company, this was a miscalibration on my part and something Nick did his utmost to correct.
The Friday was all about conversation which was just awesome. I now never ever worry about what I am going to say to a woman, when you know the tricks its really that simple. I'm naturally an introvert so I've always been a great listener, and this stuff was just the icing on the cake. The Friday night was actually the most difficult night for me. The other guys seemed to be doing very well with very little hesitation in approaching, in the beginning I just seemed to be going nowhere. After the first couple of bars, I started to loosen up a little and having some more fun and funnily enough, people started responding to me. The take away from the night was simple, go in expecting people to enjoy your company, if you don't believe this you are shooting yourself in the foot before you've even started.
"Sexy Saturday" as they call it, was intense. We started off with some classroom lessons on escalation, and let me tell you, i felt awkward, hugely out of my comfort zone. This is always good though, Nick pushes you to your limit and then beyond - this literally makes it so much easier when it comes to speaking with woman. We then had a little daygame, which was definitely not my strong point. I spoke to fast so the responses I recieved were rather poor, even so, I could feel my momentum building and it was getting easier and easier to talk to women in the street and this paid dividends when it came to Saturday night.......
We met up at the usual spot and had a briefing before we started to hit the bars. This was by far the best night of all three - I was on fire. I was no longer the slowest in the group at getting going when speaking to women, I was going after this evening with literally all i had.
The first bar we hit, the whole lot of us literally cleaned up - there wasn't any crazy stuff happening but we literally owned that bar. Nick said his goal at the beginning of the weekend what to give us an experience that would make us realise that we could do this - this was the night for me. I had some great conversations with some beautiful women, bouncing from group to group and just having an awesome time, I even had a great conversation with the barmaid and, in my opinion, sometimes these can be the hardest nuts to crack.
We left the bar and I was absolutely buzzing. The next bar awaited and i could not wait to get stuck in. I hit the bathroom to reassert myself and then came out fighting! ;) The first group I saw had the cutest girl in there. I went straight up, started the conversation and had an absolute blast. That's with one of her friends being a complete b**** (something that would have blown me out of the water in the past, but not now). I followed all the tips that I learned over the weekend and had a great night with a wonderful woman who i still keep in touch with.
Sunday was all about the debrief, time to chill, reflect on the great times with some new friends and the learnings of a great experience. 6 months on, I look back, and I know I'm not where I want to be yet. Practice is key, and as a 25 year old with a business of my own, it's difficult to go out every weekend as time is of a premium. However, this doesn't worry me in the slightest. Why? I know I can do it, I've had the experiences that prove I am capable of being a social, highly attractive person when I want to be, when I go after it. This weekend increases your awareness so that if you ever are out of practice, you can leave an interaction, realise what you can improve on and do it the next time. This stuff is the most fun form of self improvement out there - practice your skills with women and you will become a stronger, more confident male who is not scared of taking "risks" to get what he wants. I say "risks" with quotation marks because when you put things into perspective, they really aren't - you have nothing to lose and the world to gain.
They say dreaming without any action is insanity and while i may not be completely cured, I do feel that I am well on the road to recovery. Thank you Nick, you have shown me the path and all I need to do now is walk it. "
Hope that does the job mate. Take care and hopefully see you soon - should be over in NYC sometime towards the end of the year.
Cheers,
Michael
This has been a long time coming, but I feel that since a few months have passed, I have a greater perspective of the benefits of the programme. I'll do my best to be as clear and concise as I can, but forgive me if I run off on a tangent as there have been an adventure or two. ;)
I arrived in New York from the UK not really knowing what to expect. My first day was spent getting to know my surroundings, gazing at the huge buildings which, as a dreamer by nature, began to make my mind race with the possibilities.
The first night arrived and I left for the meetup spot. I arrived and stood outside with bar feeling some trepidition, anxious and a little doubtful over what the weekend may hold. I was the first to arrive and spotted Mr Sparks dropping hooks to the groups of people around him. I said a quick hello, ensuring I slowed down the pace at which I would usually speak - something that I'm sure even Gerard Butler has to. However, over the course of the weekend, I was about to learn that my accent, as a fellow countryman whom I met that weekend would tell me, "was money". ;)
The other guys arrived and we sat down for a little coversation about how the first night would go. We would be concentrating solely on approaching and getting over this initial hurdle. This was my biggest challenge overall and it would be prove to be something I had to work on over the weekend. Luckily, I was surrounded by a man who clearly knew what he was doing and two other "students" who were extremely hungry to learn the craft.
The first night on the whole, went well. It took me a long time to get warmed up, longer than any of the other guys - infact I came dead last in the number of approaches made. After i was warmed up, things went well and generally people were very friendly. The first few groups of people I went into, I ended up running away before they actually gave me any bad signals as I felt they didn't want my company, this was a miscalibration on my part and something Nick did his utmost to correct.
The Friday was all about conversation which was just awesome. I now never ever worry about what I am going to say to a woman, when you know the tricks its really that simple. I'm naturally an introvert so I've always been a great listener, and this stuff was just the icing on the cake. The Friday night was actually the most difficult night for me. The other guys seemed to be doing very well with very little hesitation in approaching, in the beginning I just seemed to be going nowhere. After the first couple of bars, I started to loosen up a little and having some more fun and funnily enough, people started responding to me. The take away from the night was simple, go in expecting people to enjoy your company, if you don't believe this you are shooting yourself in the foot before you've even started.
"Sexy Saturday" as they call it, was intense. We started off with some classroom lessons on escalation, and let me tell you, i felt awkward, hugely out of my comfort zone. This is always good though, Nick pushes you to your limit and then beyond - this literally makes it so much easier when it comes to speaking with woman. We then had a little daygame, which was definitely not my strong point. I spoke to fast so the responses I recieved were rather poor, even so, I could feel my momentum building and it was getting easier and easier to talk to women in the street and this paid dividends when it came to Saturday night.......
We met up at the usual spot and had a briefing before we started to hit the bars. This was by far the best night of all three - I was on fire. I was no longer the slowest in the group at getting going when speaking to women, I was going after this evening with literally all i had.
The first bar we hit, the whole lot of us literally cleaned up - there wasn't any crazy stuff happening but we literally owned that bar. Nick said his goal at the beginning of the weekend what to give us an experience that would make us realise that we could do this - this was the night for me. I had some great conversations with some beautiful women, bouncing from group to group and just having an awesome time, I even had a great conversation with the barmaid and, in my opinion, sometimes these can be the hardest nuts to crack.
We left the bar and I was absolutely buzzing. The next bar awaited and i could not wait to get stuck in. I hit the bathroom to reassert myself and then came out fighting! ;) The first group I saw had the cutest girl in there. I went straight up, started the conversation and had an absolute blast. That's with one of her friends being a complete b**** (something that would have blown me out of the water in the past, but not now). I followed all the tips that I learned over the weekend and had a great night with a wonderful woman who i still keep in touch with.
Sunday was all about the debrief, time to chill, reflect on the great times with some new friends and the learnings of a great experience. 6 months on, I look back, and I know I'm not where I want to be yet. Practice is key, and as a 25 year old with a business of my own, it's difficult to go out every weekend as time is of a premium. However, this doesn't worry me in the slightest. Why? I know I can do it, I've had the experiences that prove I am capable of being a social, highly attractive person when I want to be, when I go after it. This weekend increases your awareness so that if you ever are out of practice, you can leave an interaction, realise what you can improve on and do it the next time. This stuff is the most fun form of self improvement out there - practice your skills with women and you will become a stronger, more confident male who is not scared of taking "risks" to get what he wants. I say "risks" with quotation marks because when you put things into perspective, they really aren't - you have nothing to lose and the world to gain.
They say dreaming without any action is insanity and while i may not be completely cured, I do feel that I am well on the road to recovery. Thank you Nick, you have shown me the path and all I need to do now is walk it. "
Hope that does the job mate. Take care and hopefully see you soon - should be over in NYC sometime towards the end of the year.
Cheers,
Michael
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"Best experience ever!"
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Reviewed by Nick Yalamas
July 02, 2013
July 02, 2013
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Nick Sparks
Date Program Took Place:
June 20, 2013
I took Nick’s Fearless program back in January of 2011, and back then it was a very life changing experience. It opened my eyes to a lot of new opportunities and unlocked more potential within me than I could have imagined at the time. So it came as no surprise that, taking the course the second time around, I would be going in knowing most of the material and treating the weekend as a sort of “review”. I could not have been more wrong.
It started with an email to the five lucky people taking the course containing Mr. Sparks’ new book, which in my opinion ought to replace that Bible (or whatever other book your worship) on your shelf. It contains within the vast knowledge that Nick has chosen to share, and is an amazingly fun read. Having this in our repertoire allowed Nick to cut off hours of lecture time and replace them with exercises and field time, which made such an enormous difference from the last time I took the course. It really showed not only in the feedback I was able to obtain, but in the one-on-one instruction I was receiving (keep in mind that there were five students!) and in the results I was getting out on the field. Nick and his fellow coaches were literally always on hand to answer questions and provided extremely detailed responses that didn’t simply answer your question: they provoked further thought into the matter and provided an opportunity for deep introspection, especially with issues that truly challenged the people there.
The days were packed with exercises and fun homework assignments which really tested our boundaries (grabbing quick numbers off of strangers in the park, for instance), while the evenings were a social whirlwind, sweeping us from bar to bar as we conquered our fears and found new obstacles to overcome. On Friday, I remember that I went to say hello to a cute girl at the bar while getting a drink, and she ordered Jager Bombs for Nick and I (I had WAY too many free drinks that night).
The program lead by Nick Sparks wasn’t just about the individuals. It was about the very strong bonds that we, as a group, formed throughout the weekend. We weren’t just five guys doing our own thing, we were a powerhouse group to be reckoned with that supported each other and encouraged growth far beyond what we could have done alone. I think that this is probably one of the most important aspects of the program, because what Nick does is truly foster a community that cares deeply about one another s’ growth. Not one person there was “in it for himself”. Not a single man hesitated to help and give their voice when someone was having a problem with socializing. I cannot stress enough how important this is, and it really sets apart Nick’s program from the rest: truly displaying his coaching abilities by knowing when to take a step back and let the students discuss and experiment. Those are the best kinds of teachers.
The way Nick Sparks constructed his new program is not only mind-blowingly effective, it truly exposes how deeply that Nick cares about his students and how utterly devoted he is to seeing us not only improve, but continue to learn new things with every single interaction. I want to emphasize that taking the course a second time really allowed me to work out the kinks in my socializing and hammer everything down. Where before I had a multitude of things to work on and improve, I now only have two. Having Nick and his crew there to focus solely on your performance instead of focusing on lecturing for hours is a difference that cannot be measured. I thought the first time was the best I’ve had… and Nick really went out of his way to prove that the best is yet to come.
It started with an email to the five lucky people taking the course containing Mr. Sparks’ new book, which in my opinion ought to replace that Bible (or whatever other book your worship) on your shelf. It contains within the vast knowledge that Nick has chosen to share, and is an amazingly fun read. Having this in our repertoire allowed Nick to cut off hours of lecture time and replace them with exercises and field time, which made such an enormous difference from the last time I took the course. It really showed not only in the feedback I was able to obtain, but in the one-on-one instruction I was receiving (keep in mind that there were five students!) and in the results I was getting out on the field. Nick and his fellow coaches were literally always on hand to answer questions and provided extremely detailed responses that didn’t simply answer your question: they provoked further thought into the matter and provided an opportunity for deep introspection, especially with issues that truly challenged the people there.
The days were packed with exercises and fun homework assignments which really tested our boundaries (grabbing quick numbers off of strangers in the park, for instance), while the evenings were a social whirlwind, sweeping us from bar to bar as we conquered our fears and found new obstacles to overcome. On Friday, I remember that I went to say hello to a cute girl at the bar while getting a drink, and she ordered Jager Bombs for Nick and I (I had WAY too many free drinks that night).
The program lead by Nick Sparks wasn’t just about the individuals. It was about the very strong bonds that we, as a group, formed throughout the weekend. We weren’t just five guys doing our own thing, we were a powerhouse group to be reckoned with that supported each other and encouraged growth far beyond what we could have done alone. I think that this is probably one of the most important aspects of the program, because what Nick does is truly foster a community that cares deeply about one another s’ growth. Not one person there was “in it for himself”. Not a single man hesitated to help and give their voice when someone was having a problem with socializing. I cannot stress enough how important this is, and it really sets apart Nick’s program from the rest: truly displaying his coaching abilities by knowing when to take a step back and let the students discuss and experiment. Those are the best kinds of teachers.
The way Nick Sparks constructed his new program is not only mind-blowingly effective, it truly exposes how deeply that Nick cares about his students and how utterly devoted he is to seeing us not only improve, but continue to learn new things with every single interaction. I want to emphasize that taking the course a second time really allowed me to work out the kinks in my socializing and hammer everything down. Where before I had a multitude of things to work on and improve, I now only have two. Having Nick and his crew there to focus solely on your performance instead of focusing on lecturing for hours is a difference that cannot be measured. I thought the first time was the best I’ve had… and Nick really went out of his way to prove that the best is yet to come.
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"An awesome weekend with Nick Sparks"
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Reviewed by dentaku
June 04, 2013
June 04, 2013
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Nick Sparks
Date Program Took Place:
July 19, 2012
I think if you read the rest of Nick's testimonials you get a pretty accurate picture of the experience. I’m just gonna mention a few things that really stuck out for me.
1. You will find your sticking point
Whatever level you are at, you will find your sticking point. The thing that is stopping you from getting what you want, or stopping you from being your best. My sticking point (well one of them ) was escalation. I just didn’t know how or when to do it. Now I know that it’s a problem and I know what steps to take. Whatever level you are at you can always be better. Coaching will help you get past your sticking points and get what you want.
2. You will face your fears!
I was petrified of cold approaching girls. I was scared to death that they would shoot me down or ignore me. Well guess what! It happened!! I went in sheepishly and I got ignored. Too bad. I’ve still got two arms and legs. The world’s still turning! When I think back to all the approaches I made, most of them went pretty well. I got genuinely ignored once, and the rest turned into opportunities. Sure I’m still apprehensive of cold approaching, but there are ways of making it easier to approach people. And now I know what they are!
3. You will be a friend
The thing that stuck out the most for me was that when Nick talks about clients being friends, he genuinely mean it. In fact, it feels weird describing myself as a “client”. Clients are people I meet quarterly to explain why their fund has less money in it than 3 months ago. I know if I’m stuck on something I can just bang Nick an email and ask, in the same way you’d ask a mate if he’d downloaded any good tunes lately.
So cheers Nick for a savage weekend and an eye-opening experience!
One final point. There are no magic bullets. You gotta work at it and make this a subconscious habit. Every day is an opportunity to learn something and to improve. Do it.
1. You will find your sticking point
Whatever level you are at, you will find your sticking point. The thing that is stopping you from getting what you want, or stopping you from being your best. My sticking point (well one of them ) was escalation. I just didn’t know how or when to do it. Now I know that it’s a problem and I know what steps to take. Whatever level you are at you can always be better. Coaching will help you get past your sticking points and get what you want.
2. You will face your fears!
I was petrified of cold approaching girls. I was scared to death that they would shoot me down or ignore me. Well guess what! It happened!! I went in sheepishly and I got ignored. Too bad. I’ve still got two arms and legs. The world’s still turning! When I think back to all the approaches I made, most of them went pretty well. I got genuinely ignored once, and the rest turned into opportunities. Sure I’m still apprehensive of cold approaching, but there are ways of making it easier to approach people. And now I know what they are!
3. You will be a friend
The thing that stuck out the most for me was that when Nick talks about clients being friends, he genuinely mean it. In fact, it feels weird describing myself as a “client”. Clients are people I meet quarterly to explain why their fund has less money in it than 3 months ago. I know if I’m stuck on something I can just bang Nick an email and ask, in the same way you’d ask a mate if he’d downloaded any good tunes lately.
So cheers Nick for a savage weekend and an eye-opening experience!
One final point. There are no magic bullets. You gotta work at it and make this a subconscious habit. Every day is an opportunity to learn something and to improve. Do it.
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"January 2013 Program..!! An amazing experience..!!"
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Reviewed by Amman
May 14, 2013
May 14, 2013
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Instructor(s) for Coaching:
Nick Sparks
Date Program Took Place:
January 10, 2013
I had been looking forward to working with Nick for a while. I had
read his articles and a friend did a program a while back speaking only
great things about him. All this intrigued me even more to work with
Nick.
However, I have been in the “community” for a while and done a few
Bootcamps (4 or 5…and some with (so called) TOP companies…) not yielding
much results, so I needed to be sure that this was right for me, and
not another marketing scheme.
I talked to Nick around 5 times on Skype (yes..5 times!!) and both
his charisma and assurance that I would get where I want if a) I work
with him and b) I go back and practice what he asks me to , left it very
hard for me to say no…his energy and excitement is contagious..!! Next
thing I knew I was on my way to New York!!
All in all, the weekend was amazing…!! And I don’t mean that in a
Bootcamp high sort of amazing, I truly believe that if I continue
working with Nick closely and working on what he ask’s me to, I can get
where I want to in my dating life and success with women.
Nick’s focus is simple, be someone who can approach fearlessly,
understanding that some people will simply not like you (for their own
reasons), while others will (again for their own reasons), and once you
find someone you “click” with, simply enjoy a great conversation with
them (using the effective conversation skills he teaches you), and
amplify the sexuality if you feel turned on by them (again he will teach
you all this). Simple!! Yet very effective..!!
Since I have returned, the reaction’s I’m getting from women are very
different. I realise that my conversations are 100 times better. I can
talk to people with more connection, really listening to what they say,
and trying to understand each unqiue person I talk to, rather than
trying to apply a certain “formula” like I was before (even though Nick
will give you certain “techniques” to help you improve your
conversations”. I also know how to turn things sexual when I meet a girl
I have chemistry with.
One of the greatest things about this program, and this MUST NOT be under-rated, is the support you receive afterwards.
In almost all of the Bootcamps I did before, the instructors teach you
the bootcamp, and you don’t hear from them afterwards..!!..And if you
do, then you need to pay more money..!! Not with Nick..!! Nick is
committed to working with you for the rest of your life when it gets to
getting this area of your life handled…you don’t have to pay him any
more for another phone consultation, or to ask him questions via e-mail,
he is committing to helping you however he can to get you where you
want.
I have to say that Nick’s extremely strong determination to get you where you want is very rare, and refreshing.
I emailed him 5 days or so after the Bootcamp saying that we should have
a Skype session on the weekend to work out a clear path for me to
follow…he replied that he wanted to do it sooner, as he wanted something
for me to practice FOR the weekend.
This sort of enthusiasm and energy to helping you achieve the success
you want is extremely rare in this “dating advice” market…so PLEASE,
PLEASE guys, if you get the chance to work with Nick, use this support
he offers wisely.
And almost lastly, this program cannot be summed up without
mentioning Christina Berkeley, who was amazing assisting our Bootcamp.
Her calm energy, understanding and knowledge of how relating between men
and women works best, together with her strong presence, went together
very well with Nick. The two made a great teaching pair. When she left
on Saturday afternoon, it almost felt as if something was missing from
our team…but we still got together and rocked the night..!
And lastly, I wanted to shout out to my fellow brothers and Bootcamp
Alumni’s…without them this Bootcamp would not have been so special.
Throughout the two days we bonded really well, and helped and pushed
each other as much as we possibly could. We formed a very good “bond”
which I am eager to harness.We are all determined to keep in touch to
ensure we all succeed.
All in all, my final words, if you’re thinking about working with
Nick, or if you’ve done Bootcamp’s with other companies which haven’t
yielded the results you wanted AND if you ARE committed to going back
and working on what Nick asks you to, then I totally totally recommend
this program. It is not a quick fix but I am confident it will get you
where you want to.
I have told myself, that I will write another review in a month, to
contrast to this review, so that you can all see the progress I have
made since the Bootcamp!! This is something I will definitely do…so look
out for my post in one month’s time…
Thanks…and good luck to you all
Oh…I wanted to mention one more thing…if any of you have not been to
New York before (like me, before the program), then make sure you try
taking off an extra 4-5 days to get to see New York too!! It’s a great
city, with so much vibrancy and energy…make sure you check it out..!!
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"Nick truly is great at what he does"
Overall rating
9.7
Effectiveness
10.0
Ease of Implementation
10.0
Innovativeness
9.0
Packaging/ Customer Service
10.0
Value for Money
9.0
Reviewed by I997
May 08, 2013
May 08, 2013
Coaching/ Bootcamps Information
Instructor(s) for Coaching:
Nick Sparks
Date Program Took Place:
February 23, 2013
So I was not fully sold on the idea of PUS, but read some great things online and thought it was worth giving it a shot. The registration process was easy and having a conversation with Nick before registering made me feel more positive about the program. I was not sold on the program, but wanted to give it a shot. I am sold now!
The weekend helped me learn many things about about trying to understand women better and communication. Working closely with Nick in a small group really helps to build trust. Nick is brutally honest in his assessment and gives solutions on how to overcome. It is a great starting point to start improving social skills and highly recommend. The communication tips given are universal and should be applied to daily life. I have been using some of the techniques in my daily work life for the past few weeks and can tell a difference. I have noticeably done better with women over the last 2 weeks since the bootcamp.
The bootcamp is the first step in longterm strategy to improve social habits. Also, after the bootcamp I have Nick as a lifelong coach/friend to help me through any bumps. Nick is knowledgeable and truly seems committed to helping other. I would highly recommend Nick as a coach and had a overall positive weekend.
The weekend helped me learn many things about about trying to understand women better and communication. Working closely with Nick in a small group really helps to build trust. Nick is brutally honest in his assessment and gives solutions on how to overcome. It is a great starting point to start improving social skills and highly recommend. The communication tips given are universal and should be applied to daily life. I have been using some of the techniques in my daily work life for the past few weeks and can tell a difference. I have noticeably done better with women over the last 2 weeks since the bootcamp.
The bootcamp is the first step in longterm strategy to improve social habits. Also, after the bootcamp I have Nick as a lifelong coach/friend to help me through any bumps. Nick is knowledgeable and truly seems committed to helping other. I would highly recommend Nick as a coach and had a overall positive weekend.
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