The Magic Of Making Up
"Good Overall Advice Sabotaged by Over Simplified 'Risky' Suggestions"
Last Update: February 19, 2019
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On first look, it's overall packaging is a bit dated (no formatting, ugly images, looks like a circa pre-2000 ebook) - which immediately gives you the feeling that it isn't a high quality product. At first look I'd write it off as likely to be a waste of time reading, but the content is actually a lot better than the impression the packaging portrays. Let's take a look...
Good Structure, a lot of Sound Psychology and Newbie FriendlyThere are a lot of good things about this product. It's well structured with a clear step by step process to follow that is well thought out. A lot of the content is based on sound psychological principles that are relevant and work.
The best thing about this product was its simplicity and how friendly it is for first readers of dating advice or anything psychology and relationship related. The vast majority of men pick up their first relationship or dating book when a girlfriend they like breaks up with them. So the content is well calibrated to the audience from that respect - anyone can pick up this book and use it with ease thanks to it spelling everything out in simple and 'down to earth' terms.
An example of how this benefits you is that you get told at each stage of the book what not to do with lots of examples. This is great, because it doesn't leave any guesswork for a newbie reader. He often lists things you should not do which will help you to avoid making the biggest mistakes.
Unfortunately, it turns out that its simplicity is also the 'achilles heel' of this product and led us to the decision to not recommend you buy it. More on that in further down...
Advice Quality Diluted by Trying to Help both Men and Women AudiencesThe book is written for both men and women. This weakens the advice because it is often generalized for both sexes where it shouldn't be. Men and women are different and behave differently in relationships and if you look at the market of dating advice products you'll see that for the most part there is a clear split between coaches and instructors that help women and those that help men - this didn't happen by accident, it's because the advice needs to fit the gender.
By writing for both sexes the author is trying to please both sides (and not offend either) rather than just writing something focused that will help the person with exactly their needs and challenges.
Some of the more specific issues that this translates to for guys is that:
1. Situations were brought up that were just not realistic or likely for 'men' but there was no clear explanation that these were in fact 'situations more relevant to women.' I know a lot about dating and advice so it was clear to me - me fear is that it wouldn't be for the men reading this book.
2. The book is too 'soft spoken' and nicey in the slant of its advice for men. Not something I would consider to be helpful to a guy who has just broken up with his girlfriend more likely than not because he has been acting too weak (it's the #1 reason for women dumping men).
Note: We are of course reviewing this purely for its usefulness to a man who has broken up with his ex girlfriend and wants to get her back.
The Dangers of Over SimplificationI'm all for simplification whenever it's possible, but there are some things you can't cut corners on because it leads to mistakes. This is the achilles heel of this product.
The information and advice on two sections of the process in particular, understanding why the break up took place and how to get back with your ex, make this mistake.
The part on understanding why you've broken up provides some misleading ideas that simplify it all down to one reason (that the author says is different for a man and a woman). Since he doesn't advise you to act on that information (it's just for your own psychology) this isn't that a big deal. I can let it pass.
The larger issue is where T.W. Jackson advises you to use some tactics to help you get back with your ex. Two examples are the technique named the instant reconnect technique and another is the handwritten letter. There are many situations where these techniques would come off as weird or could further reduce your ex-girlfriend's attraction to you. I would strongly recommend you use neither of them (if you get the book) because the odds are that they'll backfire.
The techniques are often not given with enough information to help you calibrate them to the situation (necessary for success and avoiding a nasty rejection).
Part of the reason for this is that the book is short at 62 pages with a large sized font and just isn't large enough to cover the ground it is attempting to cover. The author also wanders into areas out of his expertise such as nutrition and fitness advice (which is dated and not particularly good quality) which takes up valuable space in that 62 pages that could've been used to add more information around actions he proposes you take.
The other issue is where he recommends high risk - low return techniques. They have a high risk of causing more damage with no big upside in most cases. The handwritten letter is an example of this - I can see how it would work in some very specific examples, but they are not the most common ones. It's just a really bad idea.
The BottomlineThe advice in The Magic of Making Up is between good to average. Due to the 'achilles heel' issue of over simplification and the danger of this leading you to sabotage your chances with your ex we recommend you don't get this product. It's a pity, because there is some good useful content on the whole.
Check the ranking of get your ex back advice for better options. To give you the best chance of getting your ex back we suggest you learn the basics of being attractive with a beginner's manual (e.g. Double your dating ebook). Attraction always plays a role in a break up, so it will give you the background to understand what went wrong. It's something you can't ignore.
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The techniques, principles and advice you will receive in the magic of making up to win back the mind, heart and soul of the one you love.
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Table of Contents/ List of Topics Covered:
Chapter 1: Understanding Why Your Relationship Ended (And Why It’s Not Over Just Yet)
Chapter 2: Don’t Panic – Your Key to Winning Back Their Love (Getting Your Head On Straight)
Chapter 3: Removing the Splinter in Your Relationship (Where Do You Stand?)
Chapter 4: Re-Igniting the Spark of Passion and Desire (The Plan)
Chapter 5: Dates and Lovers – How Other People Can Actually Bring You Back Together With Your Ex
Chapter 6: Easing Back Into Your Relationship to Solidify Your Love
Chapter 7:Maintaining the Fun and Love Without Dredging Up Old Wounds and Arguments
Chapter 8: When Your Relationship Can’t Be Saved – Moving On With Grace
What You Get:
Magic Of Making Up Ebook Download
Two bonus ebooks: The Clean Slate Method and Mind Magic
Guarantee / Terms:
60 Day money back guarantee if not satisfied with the product.
User Reviews of The Magic Of Making Up
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"A Brilliant Complement to the MM"
December 31, 2009
Fact is, the Magic of Making Up is a BRILLIANT complement to the MM : yes it puts the accent on the not recommended u-turns... thus addressing an important question which is RARELY and perfectly explored here.
But by the 20th page of one of the extra booklets, you'll get to understand that it doesn't only cover that topic : from inner game to practical approaches to self improvement, from game and seduction essentials to the true most fundamental needs of a man and a woman, as MANY corny promises you'll get back your ex you can find on the market, this is different, unique, delivers, and will enhance your game.
It gets an 8/10 in my book for completion, clarity, decent style, outstanding content, and innovation.
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