#90 How Women Compete for Men with Maryanne Fisher

#90 How Women Compete for Men with Maryanne Fisher

#90 How Women Compete for Men with Maryanne Fisher
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We've covered a lot of social intelligence kind of topics in this podcast, and all of that helps you to build social awareness so you can become more in sync with your environment and work with it, rather than against it.

Today we're looking at a topic related to building your social awareness. You've probably come across situations where you're competing with other men for the same girl, and you've noticed that you have to navigate those social situations. What you may not have noticed is that women also compete for men. Better understanding how women compete for men can help you understand the situations around you and how to navigate those as well; because sometimes it may affect you also.

It's just general female psychology today and better understanding women and their dynamics, as well as your social environment. Understanding when women are competing against each other for you, or for other men, also provides you indications of when they are actually interested in you. So it's a good thing to understand from that point of view also.

Today's guest is Maryanne Fisher, PhD. She's the world's top researcher and expert on female intrasexual competition. That's basically how women compete for men. She's published over 60 peer-reviewed journal articles, and is Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology and works for the women and gender studies program in Saint Mary's University in Halifax Canada.

She also covers some other research topics. So we will also explore a few of those, including what determines women's physical attractiveness; what makes them attractive to men.

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Specifically, in this episode you'll learn about:

  • How Maryanne became involved in studying female intrasexual competition: how women compete for each other for men, or to retain the men they have (02:47)
  • Synchronizing menstrual cycles when women are around each other (e.g., living together, working together) and its indirect course into social dominance (05:00)
  • The types of things women compete for: access to good men or retaining the men they have (07:00)
  • Variations in the definition of a "good man" (09:00)
  • Research showing that people are more focused on genetics when they are younger (09:28)
  • Important traits women use to attract the men they want: their competition tools (10:13)
  • The influencers of competition (e.g. gossip) (13:00)
  • The correlation between changes in facial expressions and unappealing behavior, and how that diminishes attractiveness (15:23)
  • The cycles of a woman's competitiveness (16:47)
  • Comparison of competitive trends based on geographical locations, and your local environment (18:05)
  • Measures of quality of resources in figuring out the competition and the market (20:10)
  • Is there increased competition as a result of women (generally) peaking sexually in their thirties? (22:00)
  • Waist to hip ratio (WHR - compares the size of your waist to your hips) in order to identify the "ideal" measure: the attraction of men towards women based on this measure (body mass, physical attractiveness, and the Marilyn Monroe comparison) (24:20)
  • Data related to men offering women sex and differences in receptivity (Clark and Hatfield study, see show notes below) (26:40)
  • What competition among women means for men in terms of how a man approaches a woman he is attracted to (30:45)
  • Best way to connect with Maryanne and learn more about her work (32:26)
  • Recommendations for high quality advice (32:45)
  • Research regarding women and sexual responses, in terms of their physiology, and the book by Daniel Bergner - What Do Women Want: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire (see show notes below) (33:11)
  • Do women more frequently steal men from other women than men steal women from other men? (35:27)
  • Top three recommendations for men starting to date and improving how they interact with women, and the results they achieve (37:55)
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