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A debate has been going on for a long time in "dating advice for men" circles: when talking to women, should you use a direct method (just tell her you like her and take it from there) or an indirect way (just ask a neutral question and tell stories first)?

Is it better to be natural, focus on having fun and attract her with your cool vibe? (the way suggested by Real Social Dynamics, Paul Janka, Vin DiCarlo, Zan Perrion, Charisma Arts, etc)

Or should you have a strict game plan to follow and strategize every step of the way? (the way suggested by Love Systems, Venusian Arts, Mehow, etc)

At DatingSkillsReview.com, we have an informed opinion on the matter, because we have reviewed a lot of the products out there (and have been in the game for years ourselves). We believe some key facts have been missing from the debate so far.

First, you need to separate the effectiveness in learning from the effectiveness in applying the advice.

When you first get into attraction advice, it can be difficult to separate the good from the bad, the right from the wrong.

One thing that I see confusing beginners is how diverse the advice can be, depending on the guru.

Some will tell you to go to bars and practice talking to a lot of women (Venusian Arts, Mehow).

Others will tell you to mostly avoid bars and focus on meeting women in your daily life (Paul Janka, Gunwitch)....

Why are we still so confused about relationships when we’re improving in other areas of our lives?

We are improving as a race, technology is increasing all around us, we are making some unbelievable discovers about the universe and the world around us. We know how to become doctors, lawyers, experts in all areas of our lives.

There is something really strange about one part of our lives.

We learn less about it than other parts, yet it is arguably far more important. We get no education in this part of our lives, and many of us are anxious about it, think about it a lot… and don’t understand why we get success or fail in it.

In this interview, Sheriff from Love Systems explains how he is a prime example of someone who has come from a terrible dating background to success. Inspirational for some of those that are finding improving this part of your life challenging. He also provides some really great advice on mindsets.

The seduction community, or pick up artist community, also known as 'The Community' by its members, is the originating place of modern dating advice and knowledge for men.

Before the seduction community, dating advice was not based on proven science or real experiences. It was largely ineffective and misleading. Most of it was just plainly 'fraudulent marketers' taking advantage of men who were not happy about their success with women.

'The Community' emphasized real life results, it was and is a meritocracy of sorts, that has little time for men trying to teach or pass on advice unless they have a proven track record of a very successful dating life.