Most men have trouble meeting women. But it's not really the thought of “meeting” ladies that scares men off. It is the fact that most men do not know how to talk to women.
Men find it very daunting to talk to the opposite sex especially if they feel that they do not have anything exciting to talk about. The good news is that, this is completely normal. The majority of men get jitters in the stomach and sweaty palms when speaking with women they are interested in.
When you think about how to talk to women effectively you only need to keep it to some very basic principles. So many men try to do a lot more but fail because they don't get the basics right. The top five things to DO and AVOID doing are:
- 1. Be yourself. Do not pretend to be someone you are not when talking to women. In the long run, they will be able to sense that you are not being true to yourself. Instead of getting attracted, your bogus personality will repel women away from you. Women are highly intuitive, far more than men, and they see right through it. So always stay true to who you are.
- 2. Relax and do not overwhelm yourself too much. It is natural for both men and women to get nervous when talking to the opposite sex. It is very important that you stay calm throughout your conversation. To keep your mind relaxed, forget the idea that you are talking to her because you want her to be your girlfriend. Start friendly. You do not need to impress her all the time.
- 3. Find a common interest. One way to keep the conversation going is to find a common interest. You can ask her about her favorite cuisine. Start from there and then you can talk about your favorite chefs, favorite restaurants or even cooking shows that you enjoy the most. Finding a common topic to talk about keeps the conversation flowing. Of course, this also gives you the chance to get to know her better.
- 4. Avoid cheesy pick-up lines. Cheesy pick-up lines are way too old school. As mentioned, starting with a friendly conversation leads to better results. This saves yourself from a string of uneasy and awkward moments. It also gives both of you the chance to develop a wonderful friendship.
- 5. Smile and laugh as needed. Do not be too stiff. Women love men who they can laugh with. So crack jokes (without having to try too hard) and laugh with everybody. Joke around in exactly the same way you do with close friends (if you have made girl friends then you'll be able to do this much more naturally through experience).
Knowing how to talk to women is a skill that can be perfected through time. The important thing to keep in mind is to stay relaxed throughout the conversation. This will let your real personality shine through and draw her in through your true charisma.
